I woke up this morning with a smile on my face
And nobody’s gonna bring me down today
Been feeling like nothing’s been going my way lately
But I decided right here and now that my outlooks gonna change

That’s why I’m gonna
Say goodbye to all the tears I’ve cried
And everytime somebody hurt my pride
Feeling like they won’t let me live life
And take the time to look at what is mine
I see every lesson so clearly
I thank God for what I got from above

I believe they can take anything from me
But they can’t succeed in taking my inner peace from me
They can say all they wanna say about me
But I’m gonna carry on
I’m gonna keep on singing my song

I never wanna dwell on the pain again
There’s no use in reliving how I hurt back then
Remembering too well, the hell I felt when I was running out of faith
Every step I’m about to take is towards a better day

Cause I’m about to
Say farewell to every single lie
& All the fears I’ve held too long inside
Everytime I felt I couldn’t try
All the negativity I had inside
For too long I’ve been struggling. I couldn’t go on.
But now I’ve found I’m feeling strong and moving on

I believe they can take anything from me
But they can’t succeed in taking my inner peace from me
They can say all they wanna say about me
But I’m gonna carry on
I’m gonna keep on singing my song

Everytime I tried to be what they wanted from me
It never came naturally
So I ended up in misery, was unable to see
All the good around me
Wasted so much energy on what they thought of me
Then simply just remembering to breathe

Oh, I’ve learned I’m humanly unable to please
Everyone at the same time, so now I’ve found
My peace of mind living one day at a time

At the end I answer to one god
It comes down to one love
til’ I get to heaven above
I have made the decision
Never to give in
Til the I day I die no matter what

I’m gonna carry on, I will keep on singing my song.

I believe that they can do what they wanna.
Say what they wanna say
But I’m gonna keep on

I believe they can take anything from me
But they can’t take my inner peace

Oh, yeah…
Say what you wanna say, but I’m gonna sing my song

—Christina Aguilera, “Singing my Song”

Pos·i·tive (pz-tv) adj. 1. Characterized by or displaying certainty, acceptance, or affirmation. 2. Indicating the presence of a particular disease, condition, or organism. 3. Indicating or characterized by response or motion toward the source of a stimulus, such as light. 4. Relating to or designating electric charge of a sign opposite to that of an electron.

~The American Heritage® Medical Dictionary Copyright © 2007, 2004 by Houghton Mifflin Company.

I would like to say that I am “certain” and “accepting” of the fact that if I had to be afflicted with any “particular disease, condition, or organism”, I would choose to be afflicted with positivity.  In fact, can I purposely get infected? Sign me up!  I know, I know, I took creative liberties with my interpretation. Believe me, I could have been more cheesy.  I gots lots of cheese. It’s fun!

 

Wally was so inspired while watching the Hope for Haiti Now telethon event that he sped (ok, waddled, rolled or possibly scooted) his way on over to share  two sizzling hot (and possibly bootleg) video picks for good vibes of his favorite performances: Christina Aguilera and the Justin Timberlake and Matt Morris duet. Wally has a crush on the new bob (and possibly a thing for former Mickey Mouse Club members?) and was blown away by the positive messages of the songs, especially the song performed by Christina, entitled “Lift Me Up”.   Wally thinks that it would be a great addition to our positivity playlist because it has great lyrics like “If You Lift Me Up…just get me through this night…I know I’ll rest tomorrow…And I’ll be strong enough to try”.  Wally is getting good at this, right?  Enjoy the videos below and if you would like to learn more about the cause, the performers, or if you would like to donate, check out the telethon’s website at www.hopeforhaitinow.org. Enjoy!

Christina Aguilera performing “Lift Me Up”

Justin Timberlake and Matt Morris performing “Hallelujah”

 

Wally can’t wait to share his not-so-new video pick for good vibes. It’s a classic guaranteed to make you smile. Enjoy!

Candles are another great addition to your positivity tool belt.  Not only are certain aromas known to aid in alleviating physical symptoms, they are also said to aid in inducing feelings of relaxation and positivity.  In addition, the candles themselves can become a part of a ritual of healthy behaviors.  How so? you ask…

Well, let me count the ways.

1) Certain scents can alter a person’s mood for the better. According to a research study report entitled, The Smell Report (click here for more info), our olfactory receptors are directly connected to the limbic system, the most ancient and primitive part of the brain, which is thought to be the seat of emotion.   It is there that the smells we experience are sent to another part of our brain,  the cortex, where ‘cognitive’ recognition occurs, but only after the deepest parts of our brains have been stimulated by the smells.   Further, it is reported that humans are capable of detecting over 10,000 different scents, and every scent causes our body to respond in a slightly different way.  Once activated by the scent, the limbic system releases hormones, causing us to experience a certain mood or emotion.

In regular person speak, this means that our brains recognize smells and can associate them with a good or bad memories, which can, as a result, alter our mood for the better or worse due the brain’s shift in thinking about good memories or bad ones.

One of the most common smells associated with good memories is vanilla.  The report indicates that while not all childhood memories are pleasant, those associated with vanilla are almost invariably positive – sweet treats and rewards, ice-cream holidays, innocent pleasures, etc. – which helps to explain the popularity of the scent.  Who doesn’t want to think about “sweet treats” when they are having a bad day?

2)  Aromatherapy refers to the practice of using scents to treat various psychological and physiological problems.   It’s practice is commonly used in conjunction with massages but the practice of using it for pain management has also spread.

In a recent study performed by Serge Marchand, a neuroscientist for the American Pain Society, the effectiveness of aromatherapy in reducing pain and improving mood of fibromyalgia sufferers was tested.  The study, involving 40 participants, both male and female, showed a correlation between pleasant scents and increased mood levels in both male and female patients. Female patients also showed decreased pain scores when inhaling a pleasant scent.

Common scents said to assist with the physical symptoms are:

  • lavender, chamomile, or jasmine (to help you relax)
  • lemon, grapefruit, or geranium (to help increase your energy)
  • black pepper, eucalyptus, peppermint, or juniper (to ease sore joints and muscles)
  • jasmine, juniper, and cotton blossom (headache relief and powerful sleep aides)
  • cinnamon (helps with exhaustion and fatigue, and has also been said to have wonderful effects on your nerves, calming you down and making you more aware)
  • ginger (a stimulant, boosts awareness)

3) Candles can be a great way to add to your “self-care” routine.  As most spa-goers are aware, candles are a big part of the pampering lifestyle.  Go to a spa for a service and usually there will be candles lit or at the very least, essential oils burning, mostly because they create a comfortable and relaxing atmosphere.  When I don’t have time for the spa, I am a big fan of the uber-pampering bath by candle-light. There is also the wonderfully intoxicating reading in bed by candle-light (with the assistance of a book light of course!).

Whatever your pleasure, use your candles to light the way to a peaceful and serene environment.  Once there, take the time to enjoy it and the benefits that experiencing your favorite scent can bring (remember our brains are waiting to give us the “better” emotion).  This type of self-care routine is very important in times of high stress.  It will provide you with a well-deserved mental break and better prepare you to better manage future stressors.

4)  Research has found that positive thinking has many benefits including:  an increased life span, lower rates of depression, greater resistance to the common cold, better psychological and physical well being, reduced risk of death from cardiovascular disease, and better coping skills.  Though we know of its benefits, it can be difficult to maintain consistently positive thoughts but that shouldn’t stop you from at least making the effort.

Candles can become a part of that effort to live a purposely positive lifestyle.  In fact, the more you make an effort to behave a certain way, the more likely it will come naturally to you (also known as behavior modification).   Here are some ways you can practice positive thinking through the use of candles:

  • Light a candle, preferably a scent that would soothe you or induce feelings of relaxation.  Take a few deep breaths (or as many as you need to be in the moment) and focus on the flame.  Say (out loud or to yourself) an affirmation, or a prayer to reflect on the positive things about yourself, your day or your family.  When you are ready blow out the candle, intentionally picture the negative attitude (or the person, place, situation, or thing causing it) and push it out of your mind, thus making it go away with the extinguished flame! Then…enjoy the rest of your day.
  • Assign a meaning to your candles.  Some religions practice lighting a certain colored candle in support of a cause or belief.  You can practice doing the same in order to increase and support your positive thinking.  You can create your own meanings to associate with each color, but if you are interested, I found a website that identifies candle colors and relates them to chakras and the practice of meditation (Chakras are the seven centers of spiritual energy in the human body according to yoga/meditation philosophy).  Click here to check out their interpretation of the candle colors meanings as it relates to the Chakras. I have listed some examples below:

… White candle for centering yourself, gaining inner peace

… Blue candle for greater understanding of those around you

… Green candle for money, growth, prosperity and abundance

… Orange candle for stimulation.

Enjoy, positive thinkers! But be careful and safe while using your candles.

I Know Something Good About You

Wouldn’t this old world be better
If the folks we meet would say -
“I know something good about you!”
And treat us just that way?

Wouldn’t it be fine and dandy
If each handclasp, fond and true,
Carried with it this assurance -
“I know something good about you!”

Wouldn’t life be lots more happy
If the good that’s in us all
Were the only thing about us
That folks bothered to recall?

Wouldn’t life be lots more happy
If we praised the good we see?
For there’s such a lot of goodness
In the worst of you and me!

Wouldn’t it be nice to practice
That fine way of thinking, too?

You know something good about me;
I know something good about you.

—Louis C. Shimon 

 

There has been a lot of discussion about vaccinations lately.  Some feel very mistrustful about using vaccinations, particularly H1N1, since there have been multiple media reports about adverse side affects.  That fear seems to be compounded by the very fear of the H1N1 virus itself.  In addition, there has been an ongoing discussion within the mental health and medical field about vaccinations and immunizations of children and their connection to a diagnosis of Autism.   The most high profile of those who feel vaccinations have a direct causal connection with autism is actress/author, Jenny McCarthy.  She, along with several families and professionals dealing with autistic persons believe this to be true and have been advocating for safer vaccinations with less toxins, while some completely disagree with the idea.  This discussion continues….but in the meantime, changes are being made. 

Today I came across an article that details a new childhood vaccination schedule that was issued by the American Academy of Pediatrics, the U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention and the American Academy of Family Physicians.  Click here to read the full article.  This new vaccine schedule was published as of today in the January 2010 edition of Pediatrics

Here are some of the most significant updates:

  • A recommendation that children older than 6 months receive the H1N1 influenza vaccine.
  • A newly licensed HPV vaccine for girls, known as HPV2, to protect them from cervical cancer, which can be caused by certain strains of HPV. Girls should get their first dose of either the HPV2 or the earlier HPV4 vaccine, which is still considered effective, around age 11 or 12.
  • A suggestion that a three-dose series of the HPV4 vaccine can be given to boys between 9 and 18 years old to prevent genital warts.
  • A statement that the use of combination vaccines are generally preferred over separate injections.
  • The need to revaccinate some high-risk children who have already received the meningococcal conjugate vaccine (MCV4). Kids at high risk tend to be those with immune system disorders. Booster shots aren’t recommended for those whose only risk factor is living in a dormitory setting, according to the new vaccine schedules.
  • There does not appear to be any changes to the vaccination schedule that addresses the concerns of those who feel the current vaccinations are connected to causing autism.

Thoughts?

When you feel down and out
Sing a song, it’ll make your day
Here’s a time to shout
Sing a song, it’ll make a way
Sometimes it’s hard to care
Sing a song, it’ll make your day
A smile so hard to bear
Sing a song, it’ll make a way

Singasong
Singasong
Singasong
Singasong

Bring your heart to believing
Sing a song, it’ll make your day
Life ain’t about no retrieving
Sing a song, it’ll make a way
Give yourself what you need
Sing a song, it’ll make your day
Smile, smile smile and believe
Sing a song, it’ll make a way

  —Earth, Wind  & Fire

Ever wanted a handy tool kit that would help you to get through a particularly stressful day?  If so, you might be in luck! I came across a great exercise that I wanted to share called The Daily Survival Kit.  I am not the originator of this idea and was actually given a version of this kit by a professor when I was in college.   I was so motivated and impressed by it that I kept it and still have it pinned to a cork board in my office (it’s kind of old and dingy now, but still doing its job helping me to stay motivated).  It has definitely been a great tool that I have used in my own daily efforts to think and be positive.

Interested?  You will need to attain certain items to create your kit: 1 Sandwich bag, 1 Toothpick, 1 Rubber band, 1 Band aid, 1 Pencil, 1 Eraser, 1 piece of Chewing gum, 1 Mint, 1 Hershey’s kiss, and 1 Tea bag (any flavor).

Once you have all of the items; place all of the aforementioned items inside of the Sandwich bag along with a sandwich bag-sized copy of the following motivational instructions/poem:

The Daily Survival Kit                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                —Author Unknown

1. Toothpick - to remind you to pick out the good qualities in others

2. Rubber band - to remind you to be flexible: things might not always work out the way you want, but it will work out.

3. Band aid - to remind you to heal hurt feelings, yours and someone else’s

4. Pencil - to remind you to list your blessings everyday

5. Eraser - to remind you that everyone makes mistakes, and it’s OK

6. Chewing gum - to remind you to stick with it and you can accomplish anything

7. Mint - to remind you that you are worth a mint!

8. Candy kiss - to remind you that everyone needs a kiss or a hug every day

9. Tea bag - to remind you to relax daily and go over your list of blessings

Once complete, you should be able to grab your bag full of goodies with its written reminders whenever you need them.  I have found that hanging the baggie at eye level behind my work computer is most effective.  Nothing is more helpful to me in stressful moments than getting a quick glance at the chewing gum and the instructions written behind it telling me to “stick with it”.  Certain reminders on the list might be more noticable to you than others on days when you need them to be . 

Enjoy!

As you know, I sincerely believe that positivity does work to help people live fulfilled and happy lives. And I’m not the only one. Since I have started this blog and continued to research statistics and other ideas surrounding the concept that positive thinking can improve mental health, I have found many resources; including other professionals who subscribe to a similar idea.

Today, I came across a social psychologist, Dr. Barbara Fredrickson, who is a Kenan Distinguished Professor of Psychology and principal investigator of the Positive Emotions and Psychophysiology Laboratory. She heads a research program that is aiming to define how positive emotions are intergral to a person’a ability to flourish. Click here to check out more info about her P.E.P. Lab (PEP…cute, right?)

In addition, she provides a tool, The Positivity Ratio Self Test (Wanna try it? Click here) that may help us to continue to be self-aware about how much we are really thinking positive, as opposed to how much we would like to say we are thinking positive.  Once you answer the  brief questionnaire, you will be given a positivity ratio score and explanation of what your score means.  Because your emotions change daily, Dr. Fredrickson recommends that you take the test in the evening for at least two weeks (I would say use it whenever you feel that you need to).  To help you in that effort, she created a free website that you can log your data.  If you are interested, you can open your own positivity monitoring confidential account by clicking here.

I recommend monitoring your level of positivity because it may help you to maintain your self-awareness about your habitual thinking patterns.  So, it’s not necessarily the score that matters, but the insight you gain from acknowledging your own feelings.   If you consistently answer that you felt “ashamed”, “humiliated”, “guilty”, “stressed”, etc., it might a good idea to address that is some way.  That way might be to utilize counseling to identify where that negative pattern of thinking is coming from; it may be seeing a medical professional to make sure that you do not have a medical reason for those feelings, or it may be as simple as stepping away from a situation that consistently inspires those negative thoughts. 

Now go on…test your positivity. Be honest with yourself.  No one else is looking but everyone else around you is feeling your energy. This tool will help you to put more effort in putting out the positive vibes.

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