Season’s Greetings!

I know that for many people the holidays are frequently viewed as a time of great joy. During this time of the year we get off from work and school and spend our vacation time in the presence of our friends and family, making this season a time of happiness and togetherness. But let’s face it, often times the holidays can quickly become overwhelming. We get so wrapped up in all the many activities that we have planned that sometimes these activities start to feel more like work than fun. In order to avoid bringing extra and unnecessary stress into your lives during the holidays try making a list of the activities that are the most important to you. Instead of engaging in activities that make you unhappy, get rid of those activities that you find too burdensome. The holidays should be a time of relaxation and fun with your loved ones, so avoid engaging in activities that will take this away from you.

Now even though we would like to cross off all of our unwanted holiday activities from our calendar, there are some obligations that we can’t simply eliminate. Sometimes, much to our chagrin, we may have to go caroling with our in-laws that we don’t get along with or we may have to spend our trickling funds on buying Christmas presents for our loved ones. In these instances it sometimes helps to pick out one positive aspect from your dreaded event. For instance, you may not see eye-to-eye with your in-laws on anything, but instead of focusing on this negative idea try focusing all of your energy on the fact that you get to bring a little bit of holiday joy to the people who hear your holiday songs. You may not have as much money to buy everyone the presents that you wanted to buy for them, but you can use this opportunity to explore your creative and resourceful side. Have some fun coming up with new and fresh ideas on how to make your limited funds stretch a little further, and relish in the chorus of thank yous that you will receive from the loved ones that you give your gifts to. If you start to find and focus on the positive facets of your holiday activities that you have to keep on your calendar, you may even start to enjoy these activities more than you ever thought was possible.

For the positive thinker, positivity can be found in the bleakest of situations. This holiday season, try finding that one thing that makes a seemingly impossible situation look a little bit brighter. This beacon of hope may actually be what gets you through that unwanted activity with a little less stress.

Hello beautiful people!

Wally had one of those days again where he decided to just watch Youtube videos for hours on end. He found this video on Soul Pancake’s page that really touched his heart. The positivity that is in this video radiates through the screen and you just can’t help but smile.

Watching this video helped Wally realize that expressing your gratitude and appreciation for someone in your life not only lifts their spirits, but will lift yours as well.

He wants you all to attempt this exercise. If you’re in a dark place and want a little push towards the light then this exercise should do just that. .

Wally thinks that doing this is going to help improve your happiness and bring positivity into your mindset.

Go out and find the person who inspires you the most or has had a great impact on your life and tell the how much they mean to you. Wally is going to go find his too.

Happy Days and Stay Positive!

Click here to watch the video. You will not regret it :)

Wally was scrolling down his facebook timeline and found a very touching video for you all! It brought this huge smile across his face and he hopes it will bring a smile to you too. This video helps you to remember that even when you have nothing, you are still capable of happiness.  Click here to Enjoy!

“ As human beings, our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has—or ever will have—something inside that is unique to all time. It’s our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression. ”

—Fred Rogers


Sometimes there are things that happen to us that we just don’t expect. In fact, we watch with empathy as others suffer, never thinking that we could be going through something similar or even worse one day soon. It seems that it is actually healthy denial to live that way.  It would not be beneficial to worry all the time that the worries of others will be yours and anticipate them anxiously.  However, it does not make it easier to accept when the stress, disasters, traumas and just plain BS of life actually do come to your doorstep. Most likely, you had been living comfortably in a rose colored bubble of confidence and a positive outlook,  not worrying that something was going to come to you and just completely obliterate your idea of how your life was supposed to be going.  These unexpected events turn us around and leave us standing on our heads wondering what just happened and whether everything we knew before of ourselves and others were really true.  THOSE unexpected things are not the simple things of change and transition requiring a simple modification of thought  but the things that require you to adjust the very fabric of how you view yourself and others and whether you can allow yourself to rebuild your own vision of yourself and others in a healthy way and not in a way born of fear of that particular unexpected event happening again.

At that point, when the unexpected does hit…we have some choices, I think.  One, we can become traumatized and bitter.  Everything that reminds us of that event will make us feel that the event will occur again no matter if there are new participants.  You know, a +b = c and all that jazz.  If you are the commonality (a, for example), you might start to believe that because you are you (a), and you add the b, then that unexepected event (c) will occur again and that sounds pretty scary if that event caused enough trauma.  Whatever unexpected event occured for you at that point then becomes your prison and you may stop yourself from ever having a positive path with that experience.

The second choice might be taking it to a more spiritual place.  People often say that things happen for a reason.  You know, that old saying that when one door closes another one opens. Sometimes the unexpected event was placed before us to challenge us not to prove to us that we have big problems like everyone else, but because the path we had been going on was not for us and we needed a huge slam against our speeding train forward to knock us onto the course that is really meant for us.  Since we were probably getting really comfortable with the cadence and speed of our train, this felt like a possibly fatal collision at the time, but our second option may actually be what’s best for us.

For the positive thinker, the unexpected is an opportunity for change for the better.  A sign that we had not been traveling the correct path or that something needs to be reassessed along that road.  Because we choose to see it that way, we have the power to shape our movement forward. The unexpected is still very hard to go through in the moment, but when we build up our reserves, our resilience and coping skills, we can make it through and prosper, even when that change felt icky when it began. For all those dealing with the unexpected, may your transition be quick, manageable, balanced and in the direction you desire.

Yin and Yang illustrated from the Tao Te Ching [2]

When people see things as beautiful,
ugliness is created.
When people see things as good,
evil is created.

Being and non-being produce each other.
Difficult and easy complement each other.
Long and short define each other.
High and low oppose each other.
Fore and aft follow each other.

As the year comes to a close, we are all thinking about resolutions and what we want to change in the new year.  One of ours here at Positivity Works! is to continue to encourage a healthy and optimistic view on life for both our readers and ourselves.  In that effort to bring us all into the new year with a smile, we have found a great video supporting wondrously positive ideas about kindness and it’s ability to improve happiness. The music is pretty cool too.  So why not take a look?  Maybe it can inspire you to spread the kindness, too!

  “The Life Vest Inside (click here to learn more about their mission) is a nonprofit organization that “works to cultivate the awareness that individuals can effect real and positive change in the people around them, simply by ‘living kindness:’ by embodying empathy and compassion in our day-to-day lives.”  Wowza!!!!  We heart this idea and their video. Enjoy!             

Sometimes I lay under the moon

And I thank God I’m breathin’

Then I pray don’t take me soon

‘Cause I am here for a reason

- Matisyahu, “One Day”

Disney…this is an oh so welcome addition to your greatness! <3 The Walt Disney Company put together an awesome “It Gets Better” video in support of The Trevor Project (an anti-bullying campaign mentioned in a previous Positivity Works! blog, click here to view).  The video includes interviews with Disney Cast Members (aka employees) who have experienced bullying in their lives as a result of who they are and they even offer great advice about who to contact if you get to that point when you either “want to end it or break free [of the insecurities and trappings of feeling rejected, unwanted, unloved, etc]”. 

Check it out and  “Just remember…You are never alone.”

Need a little pick me up? Dunn dunh dunh dunnn…Wally has arrived to save the day! Back from his adventures in You Tube land, he has found a wonderful jewel of a video made by a young lady full of inspirational thoughts and a great message.  The star of our chosen Video Pick for Good Vibes writes simple but powerful words of understanding.   The message…Sure, life has its ups and downs and twists and turns and sometimes back-handed face slaps, but everybody hurts, you are not alone, and why not smile anyway? You’ve got nothing to lose.  And if you’re feeling up to it, spread the love too!

Thanks for the motivation! You have helped us to remember that positivity helps us get through the hard times. Enjoy, positive thinkers!

Today, I woke up thinking about the word, Precipice.   According to the World English Dictionary, Precipice means the steep sheer face of a cliff or crag or a precarious situation.  The definition has me envisioning myself standing right on the edge of said cliff, looking down into an abyss of precariousness.  That sounds scary, right?  I mean…what is down there?

In my musings, I’ve determined that what lies in that deep dark place is a decision that a person is fearful of making and the dark abyss is our own doubts making us wonder if we would survive the decision (the leap) and its resulting consequences.  A precipice is something that we encounter in our lives when we are making huge, life changing decisions such as deciding to change a job or become self-employed, or even when we are deciding whether or not we want to stay in our current relationships.  Those types of decisions have us in a complete tizzy because they have the power to change our whole lives, our whole routine, and it can be for the better or for the worse, if we will it so.

I think all people have these points in their lives where they feel they are at the precipice of something.  Something has them wanting to adjust an integral part of their lifestyles and they are standing at that cliff’s edge wondering if they would be strong enough to navigate the darkness and still land on their feet at the bottom if they took that leap.  To them, it can seem impossible and that hypothetical death seems certain.  They know something needs to change if they are unhappy and that’s how they got to that cliff’s edge in the first place but the fear traps them in their situation and often, that is just where their lives stagnate with minimal growth because they cowered from that edge.

But what if we had options? Instead of thinking of the leap causing pain with a broken and devastating collapse at the bottom of the dark abyss, what if we believed we could make it over and to the other side (even if we are a bit bloody and bruised when we landed?)  We, at Positivity Works!, feel that a person’s confidence and belief in themselves and their reselience is what gives our minds the super powers to fly over the doubt and fear.  Remember, this precipice is not literal.  It was created, developed, and made darker and scarier by our own minds, doubts, fears, and experiences.  We will make it through the decision we make no matter what (i.e. how hard it is, how stressful it is, how much it makes us cry), because we have trained our minds to be that strong.  It is the truth if we will it so. And if our truth is that nothing in that abyss can hurt us because we created it, then we will always win.  Just as whatever happens in life is just an occurence and if you believe you can get through it, you will.

Today, the word Precipice was on my mind because I  have a big decision to make.  But no matter what I decide, I know that I will survive because I know my mind is strong enough for the leap.  I will make it to the other side and so will you, just train your mind to believe it and will your body to get it done.

If you, positive thinker, are also at a precipice,  here  is some musical inspiration to help you with your own leap to the other side.  You’ve got this.

There are times when we just need to sit ourselves down and breathe and relax. And when we do it, we need to be ok with it and celebrate it.  In an effort to practice what I preach, I headed on over to a sunny and beautiful garden complete with a Koi pond.  I wanted to just breathe, be calm, and look at the beauty around me instead of just going, going, going with no time for appreciation.  It was wonderful and I got the brilliant (maybe in my own head?) idea to try to capture this time of relaxation for the blog readers as well.

So….without further ado, I am proud to share my peaceful day (well really, it is about 2 mins) at the Koi pond.  I absolutely have enjoyed watching this over and over when I wanted to just take a break because it is on my phone and I can! And now, it will be on your phone if you so choose to use the smart in your smart phone by coming to this site whenever you need another viewing.

My favorite parts…the brief moment of exuberant laughter in the background from a fellow relaxation enthusiast and the moments when it looks like the fish are disappearing into the light.


Good Vibes

Positivity Works! Archives

Get every new post delivered to your Inbox.

Join 504 other followers

%d bloggers like this: