Wally was scrolling down his facebook timeline and found a very touching video for you all! It brought this huge smile across his face and he hopes it will bring a smile to you too. This video helps you to remember that even when you have nothing, you are still capable of happiness. Click here to Enjoy!
“ As human beings, our job in life is to help people realize how rare and valuable each one of us really is, that each of us has something that no one else has—or ever will have—something inside that is unique to all time. It’s our job to encourage each other to discover that uniqueness and to provide ways of developing its expression. ”
Sometimes there are things that happen to us that we just don’t expect. In fact, we watch with empathy as others suffer, never thinking that we could be going through something similar or even worse one day soon. It seems that it is actually healthy denial to live that way. It would not be beneficial to worry all the time that the worries of others will be yours and anticipate them anxiously. However, it does not make it easier to accept when the stress, disasters, traumas and just plain BS of life actually do come to your doorstep. Most likely, you had been living comfortably in a rose colored bubble of confidence and a positive outlook, not worrying that something was going to come to you and just completely obliterate your idea of how your life was supposed to be going. These unexpected events turn us around and leave us standing on our heads wondering what just happened and whether everything we knew before of ourselves and others were really true. THOSE unexpected things are not the simple things of change and transition requiring a simple modification of thought but the things that require you to adjust the very fabric of how you view yourself and others and whether you can allow yourself to rebuild your own vision of yourself and others in a healthy way and not in a way born of fear of that particular unexpected event happening again.
At that point, when the unexpected does hit…we have some choices, I think. One, we can become traumatized and bitter. Everything that reminds us of that event will make us feel that the event will occur again no matter if there are new participants. You know, a +b = c and all that jazz. If you are the commonality (a, for example), you might start to believe that because you are you (a), and you add the b, then that unexepected event (c) will occur again and that sounds pretty scary if that event caused enough trauma. Whatever unexpected event occured for you at that point then becomes your prison and you may stop yourself from ever having a positive path with that experience.
The second choice might be taking it to a more spiritual place. People often say that things happen for a reason. You know, that old saying that when one door closes another one opens. Sometimes the unexpected event was placed before us to challenge us not to prove to us that we have big problems like everyone else, but because the path we had been going on was not for us and we needed a huge slam against our speeding train forward to knock us onto the course that is really meant for us. Since we were probably getting really comfortable with the cadence and speed of our train, this felt like a possibly fatal collision at the time, but our second option may actually be what’s best for us.
For the positive thinker, the unexpected is an opportunity for change for the better. A sign that we had not been traveling the correct path or that something needs to be reassessed along that road. Because we choose to see it that way, we have the power to shape our movement forward. The unexpected is still very hard to go through in the moment, but when we build up our reserves, our resilience and coping skills, we can make it through and prosper, even when that change felt icky when it began. For all those dealing with the unexpected, may your transition be quick, manageable, balanced and in the direction you desire.
Yin and Yang illustrated from the Tao Te Ching 
When people see things as beautiful,
ugliness is created.
When people see things as good,
evil is created.
Being and non-being produce each other.
Difficult and easy complement each other.
Long and short define each other.
High and low oppose each other.
Fore and aft follow each other.
As the year comes to a close, we are all thinking about resolutions and what we want to change in the new year. One of ours here at Positivity Works! is to continue to encourage a healthy and optimistic view on life for both our readers and ourselves. In that effort to bring us all into the new year with a smile, we have found a great video supporting wondrously positive ideas about kindness and it’s ability to improve happiness. The music is pretty cool too. So why not take a look? Maybe it can inspire you to spread the kindness, too!
“The Life Vest Inside (click here to learn more about their mission) is a nonprofit organization that “works to cultivate the awareness that individuals can effect real and positive change in the people around them, simply by ‘living kindness:’ by embodying empathy and compassion in our day-to-day lives.” Wowza!!!! We heart this idea and their video. Enjoy!
Sometimes I lay under the moon
And I thank God I’m breathin’
Then I pray don’t take me soon
‘Cause I am here for a reason
- Matisyahu, “One Day”
Need a little pick me up? Dunn dunh dunh dunnn…Wally has arrived to save the day! Back from his adventures in You Tube land, he has found a wonderful jewel of a video made by a young lady full of inspirational thoughts and a great message. The star of our chosen Video Pick for Good Vibes writes simple but powerful words of understanding. The message…Sure, life has its ups and downs and twists and turns and sometimes back-handed face slaps, but everybody hurts, you are not alone, and why not smile anyway? You’ve got nothing to lose. And if you’re feeling up to it, spread the love too!
Thanks for the motivation! You have helped us to remember that positivity helps us get through the hard times. Enjoy, positive thinkers!
Today, I woke up thinking about the word, Precipice. According to the World English Dictionary, Precipice means the steep sheer face of a cliff or crag or a precarious situation. The definition has me envisioning myself standing right on the edge of said cliff, looking down into an abyss of precariousness. That sounds scary, right? I mean…what is down there?
In my musings, I’ve determined that what lies in that deep dark place is a decision that a person is fearful of making and the dark abyss is our own doubts making us wonder if we would survive the decision (the leap) and its resulting consequences. A precipice is something that we encounter in our lives when we are making huge, life changing decisions such as deciding to change a job or become self-employed, or even when we are deciding whether or not we want to stay in our current relationships. Those types of decisions have us in a complete tizzy because they have the power to change our whole lives, our whole routine, and it can be for the better or for the worse, if we will it so.
I think all people have these points in their lives where they feel they are at the precipice of something. Something has them wanting to adjust an integral part of their lifestyles and they are standing at that cliff’s edge wondering if they would be strong enough to navigate the darkness and still land on their feet at the bottom if they took that leap. To them, it can seem impossible and that hypothetical death seems certain. They know something needs to change if they are unhappy and that’s how they got to that cliff’s edge in the first place but the fear traps them in their situation and often, that is just where their lives stagnate with minimal growth because they cowered from that edge.
But what if we had options? Instead of thinking of the leap causing pain with a broken and devastating collapse at the bottom of the dark abyss, what if we believed we could make it over and to the other side (even if we are a bit bloody and bruised when we landed?) We, at Positivity Works!, feel that a person’s confidence and belief in themselves and their reselience is what gives our minds the super powers to fly over the doubt and fear. Remember, this precipice is not literal. It was created, developed, and made darker and scarier by our own minds, doubts, fears, and experiences. We will make it through the decision we make no matter what (i.e. how hard it is, how stressful it is, how much it makes us cry), because we have trained our minds to be that strong. It is the truth if we will it so. And if our truth is that nothing in that abyss can hurt us because we created it, then we will always win. Just as whatever happens in life is just an occurence and if you believe you can get through it, you will.
Today, the word Precipice was on my mind because I have a big decision to make. But no matter what I decide, I know that I will survive because I know my mind is strong enough for the leap. I will make it to the other side and so will you, just train your mind to believe it and will your body to get it done.
If you, positive thinker, are also at a precipice, here is some musical inspiration to help you with your own leap to the other side. You’ve got this.
There are times when we just need to sit ourselves down and breathe and relax. And when we do it, we need to be ok with it and celebrate it. In an effort to practice what I preach, I headed on over to a sunny and beautiful garden complete with a Koi pond. I wanted to just breathe, be calm, and look at the beauty around me instead of just going, going, going with no time for appreciation. It was wonderful and I got the brilliant (maybe in my own head?) idea to try to capture this time of relaxation for the blog readers as well.
So….without further ado, I am proud to share my peaceful day (well really, it is about 2 mins) at the Koi pond. I absolutely have enjoyed watching this over and over when I wanted to just take a break because it is on my phone and I can! And now, it will be on your phone if you so choose to use the smart in your smart phone by coming to this site whenever you need another viewing.
My favorite parts…the brief moment of exuberant laughter in the background from a fellow relaxation enthusiast and the moments when it looks like the fish are disappearing into the light.
This world, in its most recent history, has seen multiple wars, multiple natural disasters and more than a few everyday stressors. All incidents that can create so much stress and strife. We don’t often speak, here at Positivity Works!, about the reasons why we need to be positive. We most often just provide resources and information about how to attain and maintain your positivity. However, the why can be important because the why is often the story that is hiding behind the fake smile on your face when you answer “Fine” after the 5th person that day asks you “How are you?” when you really feel the complete opposite. In fact, you would probably love to confide in them and feel that they really hear you and care (and won’t spread your business).
And just imagine, if they did, if they were open to you and tolerant enough to give you the time and hear you. How would you feel? I’d imagine that there would be some feelings of positivity associated because the why was no longer lurking in your head but now out there for you to process, freeing you to think/feel other things. And, if you train your mind correctly, those thoughts would be positive in nature.
We here at Positivity Works! are of the opinion that we need to be positive because it builds our tolerance to pain and hurt. It builds our tolerance to the reality of the multiple wars, disasters, and grievances and helps us to go on living. It even builds our tolerance to physical pains. For example, convincing yourself that “you got this” in a middle of a torturous run can really be the thing to push you past the pain of the cramp in your side. Positivity can also build your tolerance for others when you would like nothing better than to *&^BKJD!!! (insert *be really mean to them*). Being able to turn away from them with a smile is much better than being arrested, don’t you think?
Words to think on…Be Tolerant.
“Though all society is founded on intolerance, all improvement is founded on tolerance.” –George Bernard Shaw
“Intolerance is evidence of impotence.” –Aleister Crowley
“Anger and intolerance are the twin enemies of correct understanding.” –Mahatma Gandhi
A while back I was noticing this great trend of advertising that promoted positive lifestyle choices or keeping a positive outlook. Most of that trend began when the world started to recognize economic strife and needed a little encouragement to get out and stimulate the sickly economy (i.e. convince consumers, with a big smile and a hug, to spend their hard-earned money on their products).
Regardless of the fact that the intent was to stimulate spending and not necessarily improve mental health, the sentiment and message was and still is, nice. Because of that, we will continue to point out that type of advertising because they seem responsible and are meeting the needs of their public. They are right. Sometimes we do need a hug and a smile when we are going through hardships, even when that hug and a smile is cloaking a hard sell. And sometimes we just wanna buy stuff! Hey, if it makes us happy… (but be responsible my fellow shop-a-holic sisters and brothers)
So, since I find the idea of what I call “happiness marketing” to be such a grand thing, I always notice it and think to share with all of you positive thinkers. I mean, what if you missed it? ;)
The most recent find has been these new Kaiser Permanente radio commercials. They are just wonderful (as we gush, please note we here at Positivity Works! have no affiliation with any advertisers we mention. We just heart things sometimes). The campaign focuses on well-being and are entitled “Thrive”. Kaiser touts them as supporting the mind, body and spirit. Each one spreads a positive message about mental and physical health in an engaging and educational way.
There is one about the healing and mood boosting powers of music and assigns you a “sonic prescription” for using music as self-care when you’re feeling down. And the play therapist in me absolutely loves the one that tells you to “put the play back in your day” and how play (i.e. doing the things you love) can keep you young and healthy.
There is another about how happy people “tend to be happier” and they give us some statistics about it and great ideas too! My favorite line…”Is it just me, or do happy people seem to get all the breaks?” The ad seems to be making a point about self-fulfilling prophecies (mental health jargon) and the idea that if you believe that you can be happy and that things will go well for you, they will. Love it. (Did that blow your mind? Yes, we know. Big thinking goes on here *insert smug smile*).
To check out the ads mentioned and get exposed to some great resources that benefit your overall health, click on the links below and check out the Kaiser Permanente Thrive website here.