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Positive thinker I want you to recall some time in your life when something didn’t go according to plan. Now you may be asking yourself, “Isn’t this blog supposed to be some sort of haven for positivity?” Well worry not, it is still a blog dedicated to positivity, and recalling a disappointing time in your life may not seem very positive, but for the purposes of this one particular post, I would like you to recall a disappointing moment in your life…

Do you have it yet?

Ok, Good.

Now, put yourself back in that moment. This disappointment that you felt didn’t make you feel very good, did it? Disappointment never does, but sometimes things happen that are completely out of our control. We may plan and plan and plan some more so that we can make sure that what we have envisioned for ourselves actually comes to pass, but sometimes all of that planning won’t stop us from experiencing disappointment. Sometimes unforeseen factors occur, and these factors get in the way of making that thing that we wanted to happen happen.

Now this next part of the exercise will be easier for you to do the further in the past your disappointment occurred. If your disappointment happened this morning, then it may be a tad bit harder for you to do the next part, so if you genuinely can’t continue on with the next part of the activity then try coming back and doing it in a day or two. Chances are though, if you think hard enough you will be able to do this next part right along with those people who recalled a disappointing moment from years ago.

Next I want you to recall at least one thing that went your way after that thing that didn’t go your way happened. Do you remember that time that you planned and planned and planned some more, but instead of things not working out in your favor, they actually ended up going your way? And don’t just limit yourself to thinking about one moment when something went your way. Chances are that if you sat down and made a list of times that things went your way, that those items on your list would exceed the amount of moments that things didn’t go your way. Yes it’s true that sometimes things don’t end up working in the way that we want them to work, but it’s equally true that there are times when all of that planning will pay off and we can actually achieve what we want to achieve. And when that does happen, it makes us feel great!

Sometimes it’s hard for us to think of the good in our lives. It’s a lot easier for us to think about the negative things that have happened to us. When we feel bad about ourselves or about our situation it becomes all too easy for us to think about more bad moments, but that’s the last thing that you should be doing when you find yourself in a situation where things haven’t gone your way. If you ever find yourself staring down at another moment when something hasn’t turned out the way that you wanted it to turn out, then you should try and think about moments when things have turned out the way that you wanted them to. Doing this will not only help to bring you out of your bad mood, but it will also help to encourage you to look forward to receiving more good moments in the future.

Positive thinker, one disappointment doesn’t mean that your life is going to be full of nothing but disappointments. Nobody’s life goes according to plan 100 percent of the time simply because that’s not how life works. We have disappointments and things don’t always go our way, but just because this is true doesn’t mean that we have to allow these moments to have control over our lives. You can choose to dwell on them if you wan to, but I guarantee you that if you do that you’re only going to attract more negativity into your life. However, if you want more positivity to enter into your life then choosing to not dwell on these moments can actually help you to bring more positivity in your life. If you focus on the next big thing and wanting the next big thing to happen then you might actually be able to get that next big thing. On the other hand, if you spend time focusing on that thing that didn’t go your way then you won’t have time to focus on having the next big good thing enter into your life.

Life may have disappointing moments for you positive thinker, but you should leave these moments in the past where they belong. Focus on the good moments so that you can attract more of these moments. And better than that, focus on the here and now and be present in where you are in your life right now so that you will be able to prepare yourself for whatever good may come your way next.

Remember, “Just because the past didn’t turn out like you wanted it to, doesn’t mean your future can’t be better than you ever imagined.”

 

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Have you ever meant someone who is truly passionate about something? This person could be passionate about his or her career or maybe even a hobby that they have. Or perhaps they just so happen to be passionate about some worthy cause like feeding starving children or stopping animal abuse. It’s even possible that you might know someone out there who is passionate about another person in their life. And when you meet these kinds of people or hear about them do you ever think about how they’re able to do the things that they do? Have you ever wondered why somebody can sit in a tree for weeks and protest against some big business that is destroying a forest full of wild life? Have you ever looked at someone and wondered how they could put so many hours into their job to the point that they fail to spend enough time with their loved ones and start to lose sleep, and yet, despite all this, they still have a smile on their face? Or have you ever heard of someone who decided to move to some poor village in a third world country so that they could spend time helping out those who don’t have as much as they do? All of these scenarios involve different people doing very different things, but they do have one common factor. All of these people are passionate about these things that they have decided to devote so much of their life to; they have a why.

And they don’t just have a why. They have a strong why. These people can’t do the things that they do without having a why that’s strong enough. You don’t leave your family, give up all of your gizmos and gadgets, and move to the middle of nowhere because you’re kind of into helping make life better for people who are living in poverty. You do it because it’s a cause that you strongly believe in.

Or you could do all of these big acts if your why wasn’t that strong, but if you did do it you probably wouldn’t be happy while doing it. Joining the Peace Corps or some other similar organization isn’t for everybody and that’s because not everyone can find a why that’s big enough and strong enough to help them through their time of service. Wanting other people to think that you’re a good person isn’t going to get you through all of those years, but truly wanting to make a difference in the lives of those who are less fortunate probably will.

And p­­­­­­ositive thinkers, you need to find your whys in everyday situations too. So figure out the reason why you’re working that job that you have. Find out the reason why you’re in the relationship with that guy or that girl. Find out the reason why you get up and go to church every Sunday. And find out the why behind why you go to the places that you go. Finding your whys aren’t just for the people who are deciding to give up their life of luxury in order to join the Peace Corps. It’s for everyone.

The chances are, if the whys behind whatever you’re doing in your everyday life can support the activities that you’re doing then you’re going to have enough energy and determination to keep up with those activities even when they get tough. If the why behind the activities that you’re doing aren’t strong enough then you have two options…

You can either choose to give up on that thing that you’re doing that doesn’t have a big enough why for you, or you can search to find another why that is big enough. And neither of these options are necessarily bad decisions for you too make. If you want to keep up with whatever activity you’re doing then finding a new why that’s stronger will help you to keep on doing that activity even when you’ve lost some interest in it. Sometimes your why needs to change and there’s nothing wrong with that because as we change our whys might have to change right along with us. And if not having a big enough why is problematic for you and if you’re unable to figure out a why that is big enough for you to keep on doing that thing that you don’t want to do then giving up on it might be what’s best for you. That thing might not be important enough for you to keep on pushing through with it, but if it is important to you, and you do want to keep on going on then make sure that you find a strong enough why that will help you to keep on moving forward. ­­­­

Positive thinker, the next time you take on something new or the next time you find yourself loathing an activity that you’re engaging in ask yourself this…

“Why am I doing this?”

“What’s driving me to do this?”

“What’s that thing that’s going to push me forward even when things start to get difficult?”

“What’s my why?”

You have to have a why positive thinker…

What’s yours?

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I have a serious question that I want you to think about positive thinkers…

How happy are you with how your life is going?

If your answer to this question is that I’m pretty happy with how my life is going or some variation of this answer then good for you! Keep on doing whatever it is that you’re doing that’s making you feel that way. For those of you who aren’t too happy with how your life is going, this next part is for you.

People can live a hundred years and end up not truly living a single day of those hundred years. If you’re wondering how this can be true, then ponder this…

What’s the point in living a hundred years if you’re not going to make sure that you make those years count?

If you’re not living a life that you enjoy, then are you truly living? Your life should be full of happy moments positive thinker. And in case you didn’t know it, happiness is a state of mind, so you can choose to be happy. If you’re not happy now, then all you need to do is decide that you’re not going to take being unhappy anymore. Instead, choose happiness. And the first step to finding happiness is for you to decide to choose positivity over negativity.

You can do this by becoming more aware of how you’re feeling and when you’re feeling it. When you pay attention to your emotions as they happen to you then you can change them if you don’t like the affect that they’re having on you. For instance, if you’re having a conversation with a friend, be alert and aware of how you’re feeling the entire time that you are conversing with this individual. If the conversation makes you feel happy then allow yourself to feel happy, but if the conversation doesn’t make you feel happy then being aware of your feelings while you’re feeling them can allow you to notice that the conversation is making you unhappy. And if the conversation is making you unhappy, then you can do something to change that unhappy feeling. Don’t let the moment pass and then remember hours later that you were unhappy earlier and should have changed your way of thinking when your unhappiness was occurring. Yes you may still remember in the future to not allow that kind of event to make you feel unhappy, but if you learn how to address how you’re feeling in the moment when that unhappiness trigger occurs then you will be better equipped for future moments when something similar happens. Don’t let the unexpected and unwanted things that enter into your life stop you from being happy. We are all going to deal with bad moments. That’s just a part of life, but we don’t have to let these moments stop us from living our life with joy.

And positive thinker, part of living with joy is living a life that gives you a sense of purpose and fulfillment, not emptiness. If you wake up everyday and think to yourself that there has to be more to life than this life that you’re living, then you’re probably right. You’re not supposed to have that feeling. You shouldn’t have that feeling because you were put here on this earth to live your life to the fullest. If you’re not feeling fulfilled then it’s your job to go out into the world and find that something that makes you excited to live. And don’t live somebody else’s version of a fulfilling life. Live your version of what it should be. You’re life is a gift positive thinker and gifts are meant to bring joy to the person that they are given to, so you should enjoy your gift of life for your entire life, just like the oldest man in the world did until the day he died…

Last Tuesday Yasutaro Koide, the oldest man in the world, passed away. He was 112 years old. In August, when he became the world’s oldest man, he was quoted as saying that his secret to living a long life was due to the fact that he didn’t smoke or drink, that he tried to not overdo things, and that he tried to “live with joy.” This last part is the critical part. He chose to live life with joy. He could’ve done all of those other things, but without living with joy, those 112 years of life probably wouldn’t’ve been as fulfilling or special. We can watch what we eat and we can refrain from drinking and not overdoing things, but if we do all that just so that we can live to be over a hundred years old but we fail to live those hundred years with joy then all that other stuff doesn’t really matter.

Remember positive thinker, “In the end, it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”

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When I was in high school, I was on the track and field team. Some of my fondest memories from high school happened during track practices and track meets. I absolutely loved feeling the tartan surface of the track underneath my feet as I sprinted down the lanes. I adored how my heart raced as I flew through the air and into a giant pile of sand at the end of the jumping pit. And I still remember counting my steps so that I could glide smoothly over a bar hanging five feet in the air before landing on a giant pillow-like surface. I loved all of these moments of competition, but more than that, I loved getting to see the joy on my friends’ faces as they competed in their events. For me, cheering my friends on in their events was just as important as it was for me to compete in my own events.

One moment that will stay with me forever is one of the 4×400 relays that my friend competed in during our sophomore year. This particular race was special because it was against a school that we usually had no chance of beating. Everyone on this other track team, no matter if they were running or participating in the field events, was really good, but for the first time in a long time, our school actually had a 4×4 team that was pretty good too. The 4×4 was always the last event of the track meet, so everyone who wasn’t participating in the 4×4 was able to actually watch the last event of the day…

The sun had just started to set and a cool breeze danced around the track as my friends and I stood around the edge of the field waiting for the start of the race…

“On your mark,” the official said as the crowd grew quiet. “Set,” he continued as the athletes stilled into their starting positions.

“BANG,” the sound of the gun yelled as the girls took off running.

As we watched the first legs of the two teams go against each other, we realized that they were pretty much neck and neck the entire time. The race continued on, and by the time the first leg of our team handed off the baton to the second leg, we had inched out in front of the other team. With our eyes locked on the race, we watched as our girl increased the gap between her and the girl from the other team. By the time our third leg had gotten the baton, there was so much space between us and the other team that my teammates around me excitedly started to cheer and scream with such ferocity and vigor that you would have thought that our girls were competing for the Olympic gold. My good friend was the final leg for our 4X4 team since she was the fastest, so when our third girl handed the baton off to her we just knew that she would bring home the win for us. As we yelled and cheered for her during the first half of her lap, it seemed like we were on track to win. The girl from the other team was at least 200 meters behind her, and victory was so close we could reach out and touch it, but as my friend pulled around to the last stretch of the race we could tell something was off. She started to slow down, and by the time she hit the last 50 meters of the race she started leaning forward, and the next thing we knew she was falling towards the ground.

In unison, the girls around me gasped as she hit the ground. We stood their holding our breaths as we saw her struggling to get back up. With our encouragement she was able to stand up again, but this time she only moved a few feet before falling back down to the ground once again. Motionless, she laid their in the middle of the track as our coaches rushed forward to check on her. Those of us standing on the sidelines ran as close as we could get to her before our coaches told us to stay back. As we waited there hoping and praying that she was alright, the girl from the other team ran by my friend and straight through to the finish line, taking first place. The race was over, and we had lost, but what my friend did next after the race was over was something that she did not have to do. After she gained her composure back, she stood up and slowly started to limp to the finish line. We could tell she was still in pain with each and every laboring step that she took, but despite this she kept going. She may not have gotten to the end of the race with the same speed that she started it with, but she finished it, and that’s what counted.

My friend could have given up. No one would have blamed her if she had chosen to walk off the track and not finish the race, but she didn’t. She kept going. Sometimes giving up seems like the best option. When it seems like you’ve given your all and you don’t have anymore to give, giving up really does seem very appealing, but you don’t have to give up positive thinker. It doesn’t matter if you stumble. You can still get up and keep going. Limp to the finish line if you have to. Just get up and keep going. In the end, it doesn’t matter how long it takes you to finish the race. What does matter is that you can say that you gave it your all when you finally reach that finish line.

Remember…

“If you can’t fly, then run,

If you can’t run, then walk,

If you can’t walk, then crawl,

But whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.”

-Martin Luther King Jr.

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Acronyms get used all of the time. I’m sure you know quite a few of them yourself. For instance, you probably used them in school to try and remember things that didn’t come as easy to you as you would have liked them to. For those of us who weren’t the best in math, we used Please Excuse My Dear Aunt Sally or PEMDAS (Parentheses, Exponent, Multiplication, Division, Addition, Subtraction) in order to figure out what we were supposed to do first whenever we tried to remember our order of operations. And for those of us who weren’t musically inclined we used Every Good Boy Does Fine so that we could fill out our music sheets the right way.

Acronyms almost seemed like a necessity as we went through school. We might not need them anymore to help us get through math class or music class, but we can still use them to get through difficult times in our adult lives.

I recently came across a few acronyms (I wish I could take credit for coming up with them on my own), and I thought that it would be nice to share them with you positive thinkers. These three acronyms spell out words that are typically thought to have a negative connotation wrapped around them. And when we hear words that are dripping with negativity, it becomes difficult for us to move from a place of feeling down and out to a place of feeling good about ourselves (and that’s what we really need whenever we’re confronted with negativity). Merriam Webster may have a negative definition listed for these words, but when they are transformed into the following acronyms, the message speaks to one of positivity and resilience in the face of trying times instead of negativity and hopelessness…

F.A.I.L, or First Attempt In Learning, is what you should think of whenever you don’t succeed at something. This is a particularly good weapon to have in hand whenever you experience failure. Many times when we fail, we feel like giving up. We see our failure as a sign for us to move on, but it doesn’t have to be that. When you fail at something that just means that you haven’t learned everything that you need to know in order for you to succeed at whatever you’re attempting to do. Now when you fail, you can think of this acronym and use it to go back to the drawing board and come up with a way to succeed for the next time.

The next acronym is E.N.D. Now, E.N.D no longer means the end. I want you to remember that it means Effort Never Dies. Just because somebody has told you that you can’t go any further doesn’t mean that you have to stop going. There will always be bigger, better, and higher goals for you to reach, which means that you can keep on pushing forward and achieving. And even if you hit a road block or something that may appear to be an end, it doesn’t mean that all of your effort dies with this barricade. All it means is that the effort that you have put in thus far can lead you to a new path that works even better.

The last word is N.O. And whenever you hear the word N.O, I want you to realize that this is just your Next Opportunity. Just because this person doesn’t want you, doesn’t mean that somebody else won’t. If you didn’t get that job that you wanted, that just means that you can have another opportunity to find a job that might end up being even better than the one that turned you down. If that guy or that girl that you like doesn’t like you back then now you can have a new opportunity to meet somebody that does like you. I know that it totally sounds cliché, but it’s true what they say, “When one door closes, another door opens.” And all that means is that when somebody says no to you it sets you up to have a different opportunity to have another person that will say yes. So the next time a door closes in your face, look for another door that will let you in.

If you ever come across any of these words in your life, I encourage you to not turn to Webster’s definition to define your experience. Instead, try and recall these acronyms. If you do that positive thinker, you will find yourself dealing with your situation in a much more positive and brighter light.

Remember…

“If you fail never give up because F.A.I.L means, ‘first attempt in learning.’

End is not the end. In fact E.N.D means ‘effort never dies.’

If you get no as answer, remember N.O means ‘next opportunity.’”

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Love. It makes the world go ‘round (or at least that’s what I’ve been told). Many of us experience our first taste of how wonderful love can be when we first come into this world. Our families are usually the first ones who love us and the first ones who show us what it means to love somebody else, because, as we experience the love of our families, we also learn how to love them back. And from there we move on to love more people than just the family that we grew up with. Throughout our life we go on to love our friends, boyfriends, girlfriends, spouses, children, grandchildren, nieces, nephews, cousins, aunts, uncles, grandparents, and so many more people that enter into our lives.

There’s a sense of comfort in knowing that you’re loved by someone else, and when you love someone else you’re able to provide that same comforting feeling to the person that you love. We learn to love others and for many of us it comes easily, but how easy do you find it to love yourself?

When we learn about love, a lot of us are also taught about the importance of loving ourselves, but this seems a lot harder to do when the messages and experiences that we encounter on a daily basis teach us otherwise. Our loved ones might encourage us to love ourselves, but the media and magazines and ads teach us a different message. They teach us that we should love ourselves less if we don’t act a certain way or dress a certain way or look a certain way. We are taught these messages from the people that pretend to love us and want the best for us, but we shouldn’t listen to these messages because if they truly did love us and have our best interest at heart then they would encourage us to love ourselves the same way that our loved ones encourage us to love ourselves.

And when you think about self-love positive thinker try asking yourself this question…

We do things for the people in our lives that we love without hesitation simply because we love them, but do we treat ourselves the same way? When you practice self-love you should treat yourself the same way that you treat the people in your life that you do love. For instance, you wouldn’t want to hurt somebody that you love, so you shouldn’t hurt yourself when you’re trying to practice loving yourself. Once you identify the way that you treat others that you love, you can then start doing those same things, but for yourself.

If you don’t place enough of an emphasis on loving yourself positive thinker, then I encourage you to try to make a greater effort in doing so. If you don’t know where to start when it comes to practicing self-love then try starting here…

Each day when you wake up, identify something that you need (not something that you want…something that you need). Chances are that you probably don’t have to put much effort into identifying what you need. It could be something as simple as the fact that you need someone to smile at you before you can start off positively with your day. Or you may be exhausted and you need some more energy before you start your day tomorrow. It doesn’t matter what your need is. Just identify one, and then movie on to the next part of the exercise. Once you identify your need (remember it’s your need, not your want), then go out and get it. You don’t have to wait for somebody else to give it to you; do it for yourself. If you need someone to smile at you so that you can have a good start to your day, then wake up, stand in front of your mirror, and give yourself the biggest smile imaginable. If you’re exhausted from your day at work, then only do the things that you absolutely have to do so that you can get to bed earlier and have more energy the next day.

Don’t listen to the media or magazines or ads or any other voices out there that are trying to tell you that you don’t deserve to love yourself. You are worthy of love just the way you are, so love yourself! Positive thinker, loving other people is important, but loving yourself is just as important. It is true what they say…

Love does make the world go ‘round, but make sure you include self-love in that love as well.

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We make promises constantly. Promises are meant to be kept, so when we make them, we usually try to keep them. And we learn this starting from a young age. When we were little, we made pinky promises, crossed our hearts and hoped to die, and engaged in spit hand shakes to prove that we would keep a promise. We read stories about blood oaths and we learned even further the importance of keeping promises. We knew that if we broke promises that there would be consequences. People would stop believing us if we didn’t keep our promises, and we wouldn’t be able to be taken seriously if we lied and constantly broke our promises.

We may not do anything as childish as making pinky promises anymore, but the idea behind our promises remains the same. When we make a promise, we do so with the intention of keeping it. It doesn’t matter if the promise is big or small or if we make it to someone that we’re close to or to someone who we barely know. A promise is a promise, and it’s meant to be kept.

Holding promises that we make to other people is something that we do on a regular basis, but how often is it that we find ourselves breaking promises that we make to ourselves? Do you put the same emphasis and importance as you do on the promises that you make to yourself? We don’t typically do that do we? When we make promises to other people and we break them then we have someone that’s going to be angry with us, but if we make a promise to ourselves and we break it then we don’t have anyone who will be angry with us, right? Wrong.

When you break a promise that you make to yourself positive thinker, you may not have any outside force holding you accountable, but you do have an internal force. You have you, and that should mean something to you. If you place such a high value on keeping promises to some other person then you should at least place the same value (if not more) on the promises that you make to yourself. Shouldn’t you give yourself the same respect that you give to somebody else?

As you ponder that question, you may start to think about a promise to yourself that you intend on making in just a couple of days. Promises are a pretty common thing to think about this time of the year because in less than 48 hours people around the world are going to start with their new year’s resolution. They made promises about how they were going to change in this upcoming year and in just a handful of hours it will finally be time for them to start the year off by being a new version of themselves. Are you going to be one of those people?

Some of us use the close of the year as motivation to become better people in the upcoming year, but it’s important that as we decide upon our resolutions that we also choose resolutions that are going to help us to truly become better versions of ourselves. If you haven’t yet figured out what you’re going to do for this new year then you still have some time to get your ideas ready. It doesn’t matter what your New Year’s resolution ends up being as long as you think that it will help you to grow as a person. It may be to eat healthier, or you may want to work out more. Or perhaps your heart is set on being financially responsible in 2016. Or maybe you’ll make promises that will help to heal your soul instead of something physical about your body. No matter what the promise is, just make sure that you use it to jump start your journey of becoming a better you.

Positive thinker, it doesn’t matter if you have broken promises that you have made to yourself in the past. In just over 24 hours from now you will have a chance to not break the promise that you made to yourself for the new year. Keep your promise this year positive thinker. You deserve to be the best version of yourself!

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Fairly often, we find ourselves concerned with the things that can damage us physically. We look both ways before we cross the street so that we don’t get hit by a car. We eat healthy food so that we don’t get heart disease or any other number of diseases that can result from a poor diet. We work out so that we can keep our bodies strong and healthy instead of weak and sickly. We try so hard to be physically healthy that sometimes we forget that intangible things can have just as big of an affect on our bodies as the tangible things can.

Holding on to negativity in any form can really damage you. It doesn’t matter if it’s anger, resentment, hatred, or negative feelings of self because negativity in any form is not good for you. There are even things out there that leave us with feelings of negativity that we may not even recognize or be aware of. For instance, did you know that not allowing for forgiveness to take place can have a negative toll on your body?

When somebody lies to you, cheats on you, deceives you, or hurts you any way it usually doesn’t leave you with good feelings about that individual who has harmed you. After someone hurts you, you become angry with them, especially if this person who has done you wrong is a loved one. You would never expect this person to make you feel bad, and yet they have done just that. Your initial response may be to harm them in the same way that they harmed you. Or perhaps you may just decide to cut that person out from your life altogether. You may even choose not to forgive that person.

Choosing not to forgive someone after they have hurt you may feel like a good way for you to deal with the situation, but the reality of the matter is that when you choose not to forgive someone who has done something to harm you, you will never truly be able to move on from that situation. Remember last week’s post about letting go of loads that cause you pain? Well, forgiveness can help you to let go of the hurt that you have in your heart from that person who has done you wrong…

When I was in the fifth grade I told a secret to one of my friends. It wasn’t a very big secret, but the one thing I did ask of my friend that I told this secret to was that she didn’t reveal my secret to another one of my friends that I had at the time. A few days later, my friend told my secret to the very friend that I had asked her to keep the secret from. I was furious to say the least. I stopped talking to her because I was so angry that she had told my secret. And of course, it follows that since I stopped talking to her, we eventually stopped being friends. At the end of that school year, my former friend moved away and I still had chosen not to forgive her. Even though months had passed since she had revealed my secret, I still walked around holding on to that anger that I had towards her. I just couldn’t let it go. That is, I couldn’t let it go until after I had a talk with another one of my friends. This other friend knew that I was no longer friends with the girl who had told my secret, and she also helped me to see that holding on to that anger was hurting nobody but me. My former friend had moved on (literally) and was probably going to start a new life at a different school and think nothing more about our falling out. My friend told me that I shouldn’t allow myself to be angry anymore if my former friend wasn’t even going to be affected anymore by the loss of our friendship. It was in that moment that I made the decision to forgive my old friend. My friend that I had the talk with was right. Holding on to that anger wasn’t harming anyone but me, but forgiving my old friend would allow for me to move on with my life too. It may have taken months for me to forgive the girl who shared my secret without my permission, but the moment that I did it, I felt loads better.

The thing is everyone will do something to hurt another person at some point in their life. It may not be intentional or pre-meditated, but it does happen. And if you were the one who was seeking out forgiveness for a wrongful act that you had enacted then you would probably want that person to forgive you. So why not give somebody else that same courtesy?

Forgiveness may not come right a way. It may take days, weeks, months, or even years, but when you finally hit the point of not wanting to hold on to that anger, just realize that forgiveness can help you to get rid of it.

You don’t have to forgive someone for their benefit positive thinker; you can choose to do it for yourself.

And remember, “Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.”

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Try and think back to a time when you had to carry something that was really heavy. We’ve all been there, so it probably won’t be that hard for you to come up with a moment. Now that you have that memory in your mind, try and put yourself back there. How does carrying that load feel? Do you feel your aching and wobbling arms? Do you hear your mind begging you to give your body some relief? It really doesn’t matter what kind of item you were carrying in that memory because carrying a heavy load is never pleasant.

And the load becomes more and more unpleasant the longer you have to carry it around. If you have to carry something heavy for a few seconds, then your pain is brief. You may even think that you can carry it for a longer amount of time without any problem. However, when the amount of time that you’re carrying the load increases from seconds to minutes, you all of a sudden become more aware of just how unpleasant carrying that load can actually be. And by the time you increase the time from minutes to hours, you realize just how burdensome that extra weight actually is. When you hit the hour mark you may start to search your mind for a memory of a time when you didn’t have the extra weight, but, try as you might, you can’t find that memory because all that you can focus on at the moment is how much pain your burden is causing you. You want to get rid of the weight. You want to feel like it feels to not have that extra load in your hands, and so you finally decide to do something about it. In order for you to get rid of that pain, you make the decision to let go of the weight. And the second you put it down, you can feel an instantaneous chorus of thanks from your body. Your body no longer feels heavy and weighed down because you’ve let go of your load. And at first you may still feel some of the pain that was left over from your heavy load, but soon enough your arms start to gain feeling back again and next thing you know you’re back to feeling normal again!

You don’t just have to let go of physical weights when they become too heavy for you to carry positive thinker. You have the ability to let go of those burdens that plague your mind and your soul as well. These burdens may not be physical, but they can have just as much of toll on your body as a physical weight can have. Walking around with resentment, regret, envy, hatred, and any of thousands of other mental burdens can cause you to feel weighed down just like the physical weights can. And just like with the physical weights, you may start out thinking that you can handle it. You may think that it’s not too bad holding on to all of that resentment. You may think that you can do it for a long time without it having a major effect on your body, but, just like with those physical loads, if you carry along a mental burden for too long you can start to experience some major pain. After one year you may be fine, but by the fifth year of holding on to your regret, you may actually start to feel it. And because you’re focusing too much of your energy on all of the extra weight that you’re holding on to, your mind and body cannot devote the time and energy to things that would be more beneficial to you than that pain would be. It can only focus on the pain of envy, so it can’t figure out a way to get you back to feeling like how you felt before you started holding on to that load. You get stuck feeling only that pain that comes along with hatred because you can’t just seem to let go of it.

Positive thinker, all you have to do is let go of that mental weight that you’re holding on to. It’s as simple as that. If you want to get back to feeling like you did before you picked up that extra weight then all you have to do is put down the weight. You can’t hold on to it and expect to feel just as light as you did before you held on to your extra load because carrying something extra is going to make you feel weighed down. So don’t give that mental weight that you are carrying the power to stop you from feeling light again. Let go of it! You deserve to feel free!

Remember, “It is necessary to let things go, simply for the reason that they are heavy.”

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It’s really easy to walk around the world with your eyes half opened. It’s easy, but when you go through life with your eyes partially concealed then you can’t see the world in its entirety. Since you’ve chosen the easier path, you’re also probably only choosing to see the things that you want to see…

You get stuck in the rain and all you can think about is how inconvenient that water falling from the sky is for you. Your eyes are only half way opened so you can’t see that the little bit of rain that’s dripping from the clouds up above are providing nourishment for all of the crops on the ground that will fill up your belly once they’re ripe and ready to be plucked from the ground and on to your plate.

That annoying coworker who always has something to say and will never shut their mouth up is only viewed as a pain in the butt for you when you look at the world through partially concealed eyes. On the other hand, when you open up your eyes to see all of your coworker then you will be able to realize that even this person that gets on your nerves from time to time has redeeming qualities that you just weren’t able to see when your eyes were closed.

Seeing the good in other people is a way for you to spread positivity. Many of the posts I write on here talk about ways to increase positivity in your own life, but it’s important for you to go out and spread the positivity that you acquire. You shouldn’t just keep positive thinking to yourself; you should go out and share it with those that you encounter on a daily basis. And this can be as easy as choosing to see the good in others. This is something that you should want to do, but it’s not always something that is engrained in our way of thinking…

A lot of us live in communities and cities that teach us that we’re supposed to focus on ourselves. As long as we feel good then that’s all that really matters. My positive life style is making me feel better and that’s good enough for me. If this is your attitude then that’s an attitude of me-thinking not positive thinking.

There are some people out there in the world who only hear negative things about themselves. It’s always things like “you’re worthless,” “you can’t do anything right,” or “you’ll never amount to anything.” The thing is that when you start to hear these kinds of things all of the time, you may actually start to believe those things about yourself. When all you hear is negativity, you stop expecting to receive positive messages.  You think that since the world views you in such a negative light that these things must be true and so you take them up as your own truth. But just because the world views this person in half opened eyes that only allows them to see the bad things about this person doesn’t mean that there’s only bad in this individual. You, positive thinker, have the opportunity to make the life of somebody like this a little more positive just by choosing to see the good in them. By being that beacon of positivity you just may just allow this person to start seeing themselves in a more positive light.

Remember the last time you received a little bit too much negativity from the people you encountered? How did it make you feel? I’m sure you weren’t happy about it because being belittled doesn’t tend to make anyone feel better about themselves. Wouldn’t it have made you feel a whole lot better if you could’ve have had somebody there to remind you of the good that they see in you. Wouldn’t you like to be that person for someone else?

Take up the challenge to walk around the world with your eyes fully opened because once you start walking around the world with the ability to see everything more clearly then you will also be able to be that beacon of positivity for those people that you come across in your life.

Spread your positive thinking positive thinkers!

And remember to “Always remember to see the best in others.”

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