If you started playing sports when you were a kid then you know that you didn’t just walk out on to the court or field or track knowing how to do everything that the sport entailed. There was a lot of practice involved and there were also a lot of mistakes made not only by you, but by your teammates as well. And even though you were learning to play this new sport, you also probably had fun doing it. Even though you dribbled the ball with both hands, accidentally kicked the ball to the other player, and ran around the hurdles instead of over them, you still enjoyed playing your sport for the sake of playing your sport, and win or lose you still went out there after the game and high fived the hands of all the players, and when you said good game you really meant it. It didn’t matter that much if you won or lost the game because all you really cared about was getting to go out there and play.

However, if you decided to stick with that sport when you got older more of an emphasis was placed on wining. Your coach might have yelled at you if you missed intercepting the ball that was inches away from you, which led to the opposing team scoring a touch down. Your teammates might have become frustrated if you let your defender slip by you and drive the ball to the hoop. Or your parents might have groaned if you accidently dropped the ball out of your glove as the person on the opposite team ran through home plate. As you got older the sport you played became less about having fun and more about wining.

If you think about it positive thinker, sports would be a lot different if we didn’t keep score. If soccer players didn’t count every goal they made, if football players failed to keep track of every touchdown that was completed, if basketball players didn’t tally every shot made, and if baseball players didn’t add up all of the times each player crossed home plate then maybe the players might end up having some more fun when they played.

Flagrant fouls are given and red flags are thrown because players become so focused on winning that they are willing to put the well being of another human being on the line just so that they can win a game. The opposing players become obstacles that the players need to get through in order to win, and some players are willing to do whatever is necessary to those obstacles in order to win the game.

Life can be like playing sports sometimes too. When we were younger, life was fun and we enjoyed living it, but as we got older people started to become competition and we started to think that we needed to defeat our competition in order for us to win at life. We become so wrapped up in trying to become successful and in making something of ourselves that we are willing to do whatever it takes, even if it means hurting other people in the process. And sometimes we get so wrapped up on the goals that we have set for ourselves that it becomes all that we can focus on. We may even eventually stop taking the time to enjoy the things in life that really bring us some semblance of happiness because all that starts to matter is beating the other teams.

Many times we want to make sure that the other teams lose when that doesn’t necessarily have to be the case. Unlike in sports, the game of life doesn’t necessarily have to have winners and losers. We can all be winners if we’re living the life that makes us happy and that brings us the most joy and positivity. We don’t have to go around making sure other people lose the game because it’s possible for everyone to be winners.

If you take a look up at the scoreboard right now and see that someone else is beating you, don’t give up hope just yet. It doesn’t automatically mean that you’re losing the game. If you are happy with the points that you see up on the board then you are winning. And if you’re not happy with the score that you’re seeing, don’t worry because as long as you have air in your lungs and a heart that beats there will still be time left in the game for you to score as many points as you need to score to make the game count.

It shouldn’t matter if you win or lose positive thinkers. All that matters is that you enjoy playing the game!

Do you remember how back when you were a kid, you had to listen to everything your parents told you to do whether you wanted to do it or not? Some of these things happened to be for your own good. Like when your parents made you eat vegetables, they did it because they wanted you to be healthy. And when they made you do your homework in school, even though you didn’t want to, they taught you the importance of discipline and hard work.  Or when your parents made you share your toys with your younger sibling they did it to teach you the importance of being generous and a team player.

On the other hand, some of things that your parents made you do as a child didn’t necessarily make you a better person because of it. Now as I reflect back on some of the extra curricular activities that my parents made me do when I was younger I still can’t see the purpose of doing it. I don’t think I’ll ever see the importance behind taking piano lessons that I had absolutely no interest in taking. Nor do I see how playing soccer has shaped me into becoming a better person. And I’m pretty sure that the accordion lessons that I took for many years will never help me out down the road.

When you were a child, your parents made a lot of decisions for you, but as you got older they started to loosen the reigns, and you were able to use your brain to make some decision of your own. By the time you reached high school your parents or guardians had enough trust in you to believe that you would use those life lessons that they taught you to make informed decisions for you own life. So, it was okay if you stopped playing basketball because you didn’t find it fun anymore. You didn’t have to wear the clothes that your parents picked out for you because you were old enough to make style choices by yourself. And they let you make the decision to take the foreign language that you wanted to take. Even though you were still under their control, you started to develop your own sense of autonomy which would help to shape you into the person that you would one day become.

And now that you’re an adult, you have complete freedom to choose how you want your life to look like. You no longer have your parents or guardians telling you what to do. No one gets to pick how you want to spend your life but you.

And you probably have much bigger decisions to make besides whether or not you’re going to learn how to ballroom dance or not, but if that just so happens to be one of the decisions you need to make then that decision is completely up to you.

Positive thinker if you want to be a doctor then do it.

If you want to change religions or give it up all together then do that.

Want to get married? Do it.

Want to stay single? You could do that too.

If you want to uproot your life and move halfway across the world then that decision is entirely yours to make.

And if you are ever worried about a decision that you have to make, remember that you can draw upon those life lessons that your parent or guardian taught you. In life you will come across many paths that lead to very different places, and choosing one of these paths over the other may seem very daunting, but the elders in your life taught you important life lessons so that choosing a path wouldn’t seem as scary. They taught you those lessons for a reason, and now that you’re out on your own in this world, you can use those lessons to help you to make important decisions in your life. Not everything that they made you do can help you out, but those important lessons will always be with you to guide you during your troubled times.

So go out there in the world and pick the path that you want to choose positive thinker, and choose that path knowing that it’s what you want to do and not what somebody else wants you to do.

And never forget, “You have brains in your head. You have feet in your shoes. You can steer yourself in any direction you choose!” -Dr. Seuss

There are over 7 billion people on this planet, and each and every single one of these people is different from the next. There are not two people who are exactly 100% the same. We have different eyes, hair, lips, hands, feet, and skin. We come in different shapes and sizes. We have different cultures and religions and we speak different languages. There are many individual pieces that combine together to make one person whole and while some people may share the same puzzle pieces, no two people have all of the same pieces in common, which inevitably makes us different. And that is definitely a good thing.

Could you imagine having someone in your life that was completely and totally like you? How would you feel knowing that there was somebody who looked just like you from head to toe? Would you like to have someone else in your life who thought exactly the way you thought, acted the same way you acted, laughed the way you laugh, spoke the way you spoke, dressed the way you dressed, and believed every single thing that you believe? I don’t know about you, but I wouldn’t want that person around. There would be something very unsettling about having someone who was exactly like me in every single way hanging around. It wouldn’t be very fun because part of what makes interacting with other people so interesting are the differences that we have, and if we didn’t have any differences among us and we tried to fit in with everybody then each one of us would eventually start to lose what makes us special.

And sometimes trying to fit in seems appealing to us. We think it will make life easier, so then we start to do things that will make us more like everyone else. We want to fit in so badly, that we start to be untrue to who we are. We change the way that we act when somebody tells us that it’s not right for us to act the way that we act. We change our hair and the way that we dress when another person tells us that our hair and clothes are inappropriate. We change the way we speak, when how we speak is a direct result of our experiences and environment that helped to make and shape us to be who we are.

Sometimes we forget that it is our differences that make us valuable. It is our differences that make life exciting. It is our differences that make us who we are, so instead of spurning our differences we should welcome our uniqueness and hold on to it.

Embrace your individuality positive thinker. As long as you’re not hurting anyone, it shouldn’t matter what other people think about how you act and behave because other people shouldn’t tell you how to live your life. It is your life after all, and no one knows how to live it better than you.

Only you know if you’re being true to yourself.

No one else can make that decision for you.

And if you’re not being yourself positive thinker, then try stepping into your own skin for a change.

Just imagine how much better you’d like yourself if you tried being you instead of somebody else’s version of you. If you are willing to put in energy into being someone other than you, then why not try putting the same energy into trying to be yourself. Making the decision to be yourself instead of trying to be someone else is a freeing decision to make, so make the decision today to stop letting other people tell you who you should be.

Don’t let other people tell you that you’re not good enough, when you are good enough just by being you.

If you’re a shy, quiet, introverted, nerdy, pianist, then be that person. If you’re a loud, extroverted, glass half-full, sassy, chemist then be that person, and if you’re a surly, messy, realistic, energetic, entrepreneur then be that.

Don’t be afraid to be different. Don’t be afraid to be you. And in the words of the beloved children’s book author Dr. Seuss: “Why fit in when you were born to stand out?”

Be you positive thinker, because there’s nobody else out there who can do it better than you.

Picture this…

You’re eight years old again, and you’re back at the local pool taking swimming lessons. The hot summer’s sun is beating down on you as you wait for the arrival of your swimming teacher on the side of the pool with the rest of the beginners. You take your forearm and wipe away the beads of sweat dripping down your face as you watch the big kids starting to do their laps under the guidance of their swim instructor. As you look on with awe, you think to yourself, “One day that will be me out there. One day I’ll be able to swim just like that.” As you take one more glance at the seamless backstrokes of the advanced swimmers, you see your swimming teacher approaching from the left side.

“Good Afternoon class,” she says after she takes her place at the front of the line.

“Good Afternoon,” you reply in unison with the rest of your swimming mates.

“Time to get in the water,” she answers back as she claps her hands together and turns to walk to the shallow end of the pool.

After your instructor is in the water, you all file in one at a time, while grabbing a blue kickboard as you descend into the cooling water.

Once you’re all in the pool, your instructor shouts, “Alright everyone we’re going to practice our flutter kicks first.”

Taking your board you fall into line behind the rest of the kids in your class and kick as hard as you can going up the right side of the lane, and then once you reach the other end of the pool, you turn around and repeat the same flutter kick until you get back to where you started.

As the last of your peers flutter to a stop, your instructor indicates that you will now practice the arm motions and breathing techniques used for the freestyle stroke. You know exactly what to do since you have practiced this at all of your other lessons, so once you’re lined up on the right side of the pool again, you take a deep breath and put your face in the water. As you open your eyes under the water you feel a sharp, but manageable sting run across your eyes as you scan the bottom of the pool and see your wiggling toes beneath you. After of a few seconds, your eyes adjust to the burning sensation, and you start to bring your right arm forward first, and then as your right arm goes back into its original place, your left arm comes forward, and then your right arm again and after you bring your right arm back once more, you turn your head to the right and take a deep breath. You repeat this over and over again until you hear your instructor telling you to stop a few more rotations later.

As you wipe the remaining drops of water away from your face, your teacher informs you that next everyone will be attempting to put the kicks, breathing, and arm motions together in order to swim the freestyle stroke.

The moment those words leave her mouth, you feel your heart start to slam against your chest. You’re nervous because you’re the only one of your friends who hasn’t managed to swim without the help of your instructor yet. Watching anxiously, you wait for your turn as you see each one of your swimming pals put all of three of the techniques together to do the freestyle. As each of your friends files back into line with Cheshire Cat-like grins plastered from ear to ear, you wonder if today’s going to finally be the day that you swim by yourself.

As you take another step forward you realize that there is only one more person in front of you before you’ll have to go. You take a few deep breaths in and out to calm yourself, and you glance once again to the part of the pool where the advanced swimmers swim. As you watch their graceful moves, you remember the promise that you made to yourself before the start of the lesson. “One day that will be me out there. One day I’ll be able to swim just like that.”  Remembering these two simple sentences gives you the courage that you need to get out there and swim. You want to be like them one day, but you realize that you have to take this first step before you can start to swim like the big kids. Determined, you take a step forward as you hear your instructor call your name.

Taking a deep breath once more, you lie on your stomach and prepare to put together everything that you’ve learned that will help you to swim freestyle. You can feel your teacher’s hands holding you up, but as you start to kick and move your arms, the touch from your instructor becomes lighter and lighter until you don’t feel her hands underneath you at all. You realize that you’re doing it! You’re actually swimming, and you keep on kicking and moving until you can’t kick and move anymore.

As you stand back up at the end of your turn you hear the excited congratulatory hooting and hollering from your friends and instructor. Pure joy and elation are pulsing through your veins right now, and you feel better than you’ve ever felt before. As you walk towards the end of the line with the chorus of cheers ringing in your ears you feel a smile that mirrored the smile of your swim mates spread across your face, and you realize that you’re just one step closer to your dream of swimming with the big kids.

Positive thinker, in life, you’re going to have many first steps. Anytime you want to do something new, you have to take your first step before you can reach the end of that new adventure. You can’t expect to get to the finish line by just taking one step. Reaching that end takes hundreds, thousands, and sometimes hundreds of thousands of steps, and each step is just as important as the last. Without the first step, you couldn’t get to the second step, and without the second you couldn’t get to the third, so recognize the importance of the process, and realize that the journey it takes to get to the end can be just as exciting as finally reaching the finish line.

Tackling something new can be very intimidating, but you have to find the courage to take the first step. You don’t just wake up one morning knowing how to walk or swim, and you’re not going to wake up one morning having achieved your life long dream if you haven’t taken that first step first. Doing something new takes time and patience, but if it’s something that you really want then taking that first step can give you just what you need to start living the life that you’ve always wanted to live.

So close your eyes, breathe in and out, and relish in taking that first step.

Have you ever noticed how little kids live their lives without a care in the world? They run around and act silly and dance and play, and they don’t care who sees them doing it. They are who they are and that’s good enough for them, and it should be good enough for us too, but unfortunately many times that is not the case.

Sometimes we find ourselves living a life where we question if we are being true to who we really are at our core. We all have an idea of who we are and who we are supposed to be, but how many times in life do we find ourselves living a life that’s inconsistent with this picture of ourselves that we have imagined?

We wake up one day and realize that we aren’t living the life that we want to live.

We wake up one day and realize that we aren’t being the person that we want to be.

We wake up one day and we realize that we are living the life that someone else wanted for us. And sometimes we have been playing along in this life for so long that we fail to even realize that we aren’t living our life, but somebody else’s life.

Somewhere along the road between our childhood and where we are at this exact moment in life, somebody told us to dim our light. Not all of us listened when we were told to do this, but some of us did, and we let it start to dim the moment that we decided to let someone tell us that we couldn’t be who we wanted to be. We lost our light, and now that it’s been gone for so long we don’t know if we can ever get it back, but it’s never to late to get that light back. It’s never too late to start living your life the way that you want to live it, and making the decision to do it is half the battle. You shouldn’t have to walk around life wearing a façade just because someone told you that your light was too bright or too different to keep on shining at full force, so make the decision to become your truest and most authentic version of yourself.

And I know there are probably some of you reading this right now who are saying “I haven’t let my light dim. My light is shinning just as brightly as it did when I was a child,” and if you are one of those people, then all I have to say is “good for you.” You shouldn’t allow someone to tell you how to live your life. It’s your life and you should live it in a way that allows you to let your light shine as brightly and as fully as it was meant to shine. Keep on letting your light shine positive thinker and don’t allow anyone to make you dim your light just because they have some idea of how you should be living your life.

Positive thinker, we all want to be that fun, carefree, and happy person that we once were when we weren’t bogged down by all of the pressures of life, but being stuck in a life that is full of daily pressures leads you to loose some of that spark that you once had. Even if no one has outright said to you that you should change how you’re living your life, you have still probably noticed that you have shifted your way of living to fit in with societal standards of the “proper” way to live your life. And there’s nothing wrong with that, if living that life allows for you to let your light shine the brightest, but if it doesn’t positive thinker, then it’s time to make a change in your life. It’s time to stop letting your light grow weaker and weaker with each and every passing day. Let it shine positive thinker, and live your life how you want to live it.

One of the best parts about being a child was that we didn’t have to be anything other than who we thought we wanted to be, so why not make the decision to live the same way now. Be who you want to be positive thinker, not who somebody else wants you to be.

And remember positive thinker, “Don’t ever let anyone dull your sparkle.”

Many people today seem to be preoccupied with the future. They want to know what’s going to happen tomorrow, a month from now, a year from now, and even years away from now. We are taught to plan for the future because if we don’t, we are liable to end up in a shaky position years from now, so in order to avoid that unstable future we plan. People give us incredulous looks if we tell them that we haven’t planned for our futures, so in order to avoid the stares we plan. We look at all the negative things that happened to people when they didn’t plan, so in order to not have their fate become our fates as well we plan. We plan and we keep planning until we are so focused on the future that we forget to live in the present. Planning for the future is important, but it shouldn’t become so important that we forget to stay in the present.

Sometimes we want to live in the future because we don’t like what we see in the present. It seems like things in the present are so bad that we plan and imagine our futures in order to give ourselves something to look forward to. If we’re not happy with our jobs, relationships, financial situation, or a host of any other things, looking to the future may be the only thing that gives us hope for brighter days. Having something to strive towards is important, but many times the road that you travel on to get to that final destination can be just as meaningful and important as the final destination itself. Even if the rode is difficult, choosing to stay in the present will allow you to realize just how much you went through and just how far you have come to reach the end.

Still other times we are preoccupied with the future, but instead of embracing it, we tend to avoid it. As a substitute to spending all of our time worrying about what’s going to happen in the future, we avoid thinking about it because we’d much rather live in the present. We aren’t concerned about a shaky future and we don’t care about the looks that we get when we tell people that we don’t have a detailed diagram about what our future will look like because our lives right now are fine and that’s all that matters.

There are times when we don’t want look into the future because we are afraid of what the future has in store for us. If we like the job that we have, the relationships that we have, the financial situation that we’re in, and everything else that is going on in our lives then we think that we don’t need to look to the future because everything that we need is right here in the present. We like our lives in the present, and when that happens, we also start to fear that we might lose all the good that we have one day. Thinking about becoming unhappy in the future isn’t a pleasant thought to have, so instead of trying to avoid that thought process, changing it and our actions into steps where we work towards and believe in a brighter future can lead us to have an even happier future than we have right now.

It’s alright to look ahead to the future. Thinking positively about your future and imagining something better than what you have right now is not only important but it’s essential as well, but it is also just as important to never forget to acknowledge the present. Living too much in the future will keep you out of touch with reality and with what’s going on from day to day, and you wouldn’t want that to happen. It’s also okay to live in the present, but don’t fail to look ahead into your future just because you fear losing what you have in the present. Believing in yourself and what you have now and working to maintain it is important, but so is trusting in, and planning, for a bigger and brighter future. Failing to look to the future may leave you facing some harsh realities in the near future, and you wouldn’t want that to happen either. Having a healthy balance of both aspects of your life is important, so try experiencing some of both positive thinkers.

And as always, stay positive!

How many times have we let our age stop us from doing something? Starting from our youth, we here things like, “you can’t do that; you’re too young,” or “maybe try doing that when you get a little bit older.” Often times we listen to statements like this when they are uttered to us because, the thing about being too young to do something is that one day you will eventually be old enough to do that very thing that you’re to young to do now, so we just suck it up, bide our time, and wait until we’re old enough.

But what happens when somebody tells you that you’re too old to do something?

What do you do when you hear blanket statements like, “it’s too late for you to do that; you should’ve done it when you were younger,” or “you’re definitely too old to be doing that”? Should you still listen to these statements or should you just ignore them and continue doing what you were doing before someone decided to give you their two cents? Walking away seems like the best option because after all it is your life and you should be able to live it how you please, but sometimes when we hear people tell us that we’re “too old” to do something we listen, in part, because we think that there is a grain of truth to what they are telling us.

Well if someone has ever told you that you’re “too old” positive thinker, I’m here to tell you that you’re not too old to follow your dreams. Following your dreams is not just for those of us who are young in age; it’s for anyone who has the mentality of a young person who is willing to chase his or her dreams.

There’s no expiration date on your dreams.

Even if you aren’t as young as you used to be, there is still time for you to pursue what you really want to pursue, and if that is the decision that you choose to make you definitely wouldn’t have been the first person to wait until later on in life to go for something that you really want…

Stan Lee created “The Fantastic Four” comic book when he was 38. The inventor of Curves fitness center opened up the first one when he was 40, and Vera Wang, one of the world’s leading fashion designers, didn’t even enter into the fashion industry until she was 40. Julia Child didn’t write her first cook book until she was 50, Colonel Sanders didn’t franchise Kentucky Fried Chicken until he was 62, and Laura Ingalls Wilder didn’t publish her first “Little House” book until she was 65.

Positive thinker, if any of these individuals had decided to give up on following their dreams because they were “too old,” they definitely wouldn’t have ended up with the success that they had.

Making the choice to chase your life’s dream later in life is a difficult decision to make because not only do you have to still navigate through all of the obstacles that are associated with reaching your dream, but you also now have to deal with all of the nay-sayers telling you that you can’t make it because you’re just “too old.” So fear is truly understandable, and if you’re still debating whether or not you really are too old to follow your dreams, let’s try a simple thought experiment…

Picture yourself years or maybe decades from now. You’re skin is wrinkled, you’re body is sagging in places that it doesn’t sag now, and only gray and white strands of hair remain atop of your head. You’re old, and you are also drawing near your last few days on this earth. As you think about your life, you remember all of the wonderful, happy moments that you have had. As you think about these times, you smile and realize that you truly have lived a blessed life. Now, as the happy memories fade away, you start to think about that dream that you had all those many years ago. You remember how badly you had wanted it, but you also remember that you stopped yourself from pursuing it because you were “too old,” and as you think about your life that could’ve been the smile that once graced your lips as your happy memories danced across your mind now slowly dies away.

Positive thinker, how do you think you’ll feel years down the road at the close of your life when you realize that you didn’t chase that dream that you wanted to go after all of those many years ago? If you think that you’ll be happier because you decided to give up on that dream, then go ahead and stop trying to reach it. Chances are though, that you probably wouldn’t be very happy with yourself for at least attempting to do it.

Positive thinker, try asking yourself this question: “Am I really willing to give up just because some people have told me that I’m ‘too old’ to go after my dreams?” I don’t know about you, but I’m not willing to do that.

It’s not too late for you to go out and follow your dreams positive thinker. The last thing you would want to do is end your life full of unfilled dreams that you gave up on because you were “too old,” to follow them.

Go after your dreams.

They’re yours for the taking!

Have you ever tried to lose weight, but it seems like no matter how hard you try, you can’t shed the excess fat? When you set out to drop the extra pounds you set a goal in your mind. You want to lose 10, 20, maybe 30 pounds, and so you start to change your habits. You start eating healthier and you start working out more, and initially, you do start to lose weight, but after about a month of living this new lifestyle, you stop seeing any changes in your body. So in order to lose some more weight, you start working out everyday and you cut out all of the junk from your diet, and yet your love handles stick to you unceasingly, your but still remains too bubbly, and you even become convinced that if you jumped off of the top of your house and flapped your arms to and fro that the extra fat hanging from your arms would allow you take flight in the air with the rest of the creatures of the sky. So instead of sticking with it and trying to reach that goal that you set a month ago, you decide to give up on getting fit and you just go back to your old routine.

Sometimes in life, it seems like no matter how hard you try to make something happen that it won’t happen for you. You try and try and try some more, but no matter how many times you try to make that one thing that you want to happen happen, it just doesn’t work.

A lot of times we give up on achieving a goal to soon. You may be right on the edge of a break through, but because you get frustrated and discouraged that it’s not happening right now and in the way that you want it to happen, you just decide to give up on it all together. And because you’ve become so angry, you don’t allow yourself to take a step back from your situation to examine why you haven’t achieved that goal.

And there’s always a reason for why something’s not working, you just have to be willing to find it…

Perhaps even though you’re working out more then you did in the past, the workouts that you are doing are too repetitive, so your workouts have plateaued and your body is no longer changing in the way that you want it to.

If you have plateaued when it comes to trying to work on your goal, switching up how you choose to tackle the task just may help. If you keep trying it the same way time and time again and nothing happens, then doing it a different way just might allow you to experience the results that you set out to achieve. You don’t always have to work harder to achieve your goals positive thinker. Sometimes working smarter will get you to that end that you want too.

On the other hand sometimes you aren’t working as hard as you think you are. In your quest to lose weight you have forgotten about those times when you went back to the kitchen late at night for a midnight helping of rocky road ice cream. Or maybe you didn’t use the time that you had set aside for working out for its intended use, and instead of working out for the full hour, you spent most of your time stopping to answer text messages and emails in the middle of your workout.

Sometimes you really do need to put in a little bit more effort to achieve that goal that you want.

And still other times, a change is occurring slowly, but because you’re too focused on the big end goal you become unaware of the little changes that are taking place day by day. Your body may be changing, but you are so focused on the fact that you haven’t lost the 10, 20, or 30 pounds yet that you don’t realize that you are slimmer and more toned than when you first started out on your endeavor.

Positive thinker, take the time to notice the small victories on your road to achievement because those tiny “wins” can give you the hope and the fuel that you will need to keep on striving for that end goal.

Don’t give up trying.

If you really want it, then it’s okay if you have to wait awhile for it to come. When you give up you could be depriving yourself of living the life you want, so don’t give up positive thinker. If you don’t see the results that you want then take a step back from the situation and examine what’s keeping you from achieving your goal, and once you have realized what’s stopping you, make the decision to jump back in to the task at hand and make the necessary changes to make that dream of yours a reality. Keep on trying positive thinker because what you’ve been working towards could be closer then you think.

Remember positive thinker, “Just because something isn’t happening for you right now doesn’t mean that it will never happen.”

Picture this…

It’s the first Saturday of summer, and you’re eight years old again. You wake up at the crack of dawn, because that’s what kids do even when they don’t have to be at school, and you put on your play clothes and run down the steps, taking them two at a time, and as you reach the bottom of your steps you go straight to your back door, push it open, and run outside. Even though the sun’s barely out, you can still feel the heat of the sun start to break away the cool morning air. You breathe deeply, taking in this mixture of hot and cold air, and then you run to the fence where you have just spotted your favorite ball and when you finally reach it, you pick it up and start to play with it. Without a care in the world, you kick your ball, bounce it, and throw it until you can hardly move your arms.

After you finish playing with your ball, you take a short breather in order to give your arms some much needed rest and then you move on to jumping rope. You jump and jump and jump until your legs turn to jelly and then after another short recovery you finish off your morning by hula hooping until it’s time to eat lunch. For lunch, your mom makes you your favorite lunch time meal that you devour in a manner that would make anyone think that you hadn’t had anything to eat in weeks, and after you finish eating your lunch your mom tells you that you get to go to the park!

Upon entering these sacred grounds, you sprint at full speed right to your favorite place, the sand box. You build sand castles with nothing but your hands and the water from the water fountain as your crafting tools. You expertly construct massive and intricate buildings that even an architect would be impressed by.

After finishing your masterpiece, you rush over to the jungle gym and onto the monkey bars. You move effortlessly from bar to bar until you make it to the other side of this colossal-sized playground. After going from one side of the monkey bars to the other side and back again, you decide that you’re going to have a go at the swings. You just learned how to swing by yourself, and since then you’ve been determined to get as high off the ground as is physically possible before jumping off.

After deciding to go on the swings, you slide down the winding slide and run over to the swing set just in time to grab the last free swing. You lean against the swing and start pushing it back as far as you can until you’re standing on your tippee toes and then you jump onto the seat and take off. As you feel the hot air blowing on your face, you start to pump your legs in an effort to urge the swing higher. With each pump of your legs- backwards, and forward, backwards, and forward, and backwards again- you go higher and higher until you’re higher than you’ve ever been before. Pure and unadulterated elation coarse through your veins and you hoop and holler as your stomach excitedly turns over and over again from the best swing ride of your lifetime.

And just when you think you can’t get any higher you do! This is exactly what you’ve been waiting for! Now’s your chance! As the swing rears back one more time and starts to raise you higher, you let go of the chains to your left and right, and fly in the air higher than you ever dreamed possible. As you move up and up into the air, you feel as free as a bird does as he flies and soars through the air.

As you start to make your way back to the ground, you realize that you were so wrapped up in this life-changing moment that you have forgotten to brace yourself for the landing, and just as you come to this conclusion, you land face first on the ground. SMACK!

Your face stings as you roll over onto your back, and you instantly reach for your throbbing knee that slammed on a rock when you landed face down on the ground. As you hold your knee against your chest, unrestricted tears flow down your cheeks and onto your now dirt-covered t-shirt. As you look up from where you lay on the ground, you see a blurred image of your mom rushing right over to you.

“I hurt my leg mommy,” you cry once she is by your side.

“Do you want me to kiss and make it feel better?” she asks in a soothing voice as she kneels down next to you.

After nodding your head vigorously, your mom leans her head down and places her lips on you leg making a loud and exaggerated smooching sound. “Better?” she asks after finishing her kiss.

“Mmhhmm,” you respond as you let go of your leg.

“Good. Now are you ready to get back up and play some more?” she inquires.

Looking up at her, you shake your head letting her know that you don’t want to get up.

Concern stretches across your mother’s face. “Why not?”

“I don’t know,” you say while shrugging your shoulders.

“Well you know sweetheart, if you stay down here, you’re going to miss out on all of the fun you can be having. Just look at all of the kids out here laughing and having a good time. Don’t you want to have fun like all of the other boys and girls out here?”

Turning your head to the right, you see all of the other kids running around and playing. You hear their laughter and their excited voices as the run and jump and skip and roll around the park, and as you see them enjoying their day at the park you decide that you don’t want to miss out on anymore fun and that you want to enjoy your day at the park too. You then shift your focus back up to your mother’s caring eyes, and you say, “Ok mommy, I’ll get up.”

Positive thinkers, we all fall down sometimes. We all suffer from failure, disappointments, losses, grief, hardships, and many many other difficulties that bring us down. Nobody is immune to it, but when we do fall down, we can’t stay down forever. You have to get back up. If you want to be able to try again then you have to get up first. And, if you do try again your previous fall can end up helping you because the next time you’ll know what to do so that you don’t fall the same way that you did last time.

And if you don’t want to try again, that’s ok too. You should still make the decision to get up again, and when you do eventually make that decision, leave all of the hurt that you felt back down on the ground where you fell; don’t take it with you. Carrying that hurt around with you and focusing on the pain that your fall caused you might cause you to miss out on all of the other opportunities life has to offer you, so just let go of it.

You may be scared of what could happen after you get back up again, especially after falling hard, but staying on the ground isn’t going to make you feel any better. From the ground, you can only see life pass you by; you can’t participate from the floor, but you can join in in all of life’s joys when you get up. It may be hard positive thinker, and it may be difficult, but in the end, all that matters is that you get back up.–1237788320.jpg

Positive thinker, have you ever stopped yourself from doing something after imagining all of the things that might possibly go wrong? I know I have, and I also know that whenever I do that, I deprive myself of experiencing some potential good. I can’t tell you how many times I have not gone through with something just because I believed that what I truly wanted to happen never could happen.

In high school, I failed to apply to certain colleges because I thought, “Even if I do get into this school, I’m not going to be smart enough to pass all of those classes, and I will end up being one of the least intelligent people in my grade.” I’ve avoided talking to new people just because I thought that they might talk negatively about me after I left because they would have found me weird or different. I have forgone applying for jobs because I thought that I might embarrass myself in an interview by saying something irrelevant or by not listening to the question fully and answering it the wrong way.

But what if all of those bad things that I imagined didn’t end up happening?

If I would have applied to those schools I might have actually gotten accepted, and I could have ended up excelling in all of my classes. If I would have gone over and talked to that new group of people, I might have hit it off with them and now I would be able to say that I have a new group of people that I can call my friends, and if I would have applied for that job that I wanted then I might have been able to say that I’m working at my dream job right now.

Positive thinker what would happen if all of the bad things that you imagined might happen didn’t actually happen at all? Because, yes, it is true that the bad things that you envisioned happening might happen, but it is equally true that they also might not happen. If there was even the smallest chance that you could have what you wanted just by having enough courage to go through with your plans, then why wouldn’t you at least try? If things do indeed go wrong, you will at least have some idea of where you went wrong so that you don’t end up making the same mistake the next time you decide to go for that dream, but if things do go right for you positive thinker, then you can actually end up experiencing something wonderful.

Whenever you stop yourself from doing something that you want to do because you’re afraid that it may go poorly, you’re defeating yourself before you even start. So, don’t do that to yourself positive thinker. Don’t imagine all of the bad things that might happen. Instead, imagine all of the good things that could happen. When you think negative thoughts, you are bound to introduce negative things into your life. If you start to believe that something will go wrong with your plans you may indirectly cause that very thing that you are dreading to happen. Your expectations for negative things may just cause you to act in a way that will end up making your negative thoughts come to fruition. On the other hand, if you imagine and think about things going right then positive things will be introduced into your life, and if you think those positive thoughts then you will end up behaving in a way that will make those thoughts that you have envisioned come to pass.

Positive thinker, the next time there is something big that you want to happen, don’t get intimidated by the size of whatever it is. Don’t allow your thoughts to go to a place of negativity. Stop yourself from thinking of all the possible things that could go wrong. As an alternative, start thinking of all the things that could go right. Fill your head with positive thoughts about that idea that you want to happen. Imagine it and believe that it will happen so that any and all thoughts of you not succeeding get tossed out the door and into the dumpster with the rest of the garbage. Positive thinker, you deserve all that you want to have in life, so don’t let your negative thoughts prevent you from going out and getting it! Think positive thoughts, and get positive results! Your plans don’t have to fall apart positive thinker; they can go your way!

Remember positive thinker, “Don’t think about what might go wrong, think about what could go right.”

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