Happy New Year positive thinkers!

I don’t know about you, but for the past few weeks the majority of the things that I have seen when I log onto Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, or any of the other forms of social media that we have available at our fingertips have been about New Year’s resolutions. Some people talk about how they’re going to get back to their college weight in 2015, while others make a promise to give back to their community more. No matter what the resolution is, many people come up with something to do in the New Year that will make them better than they were in the previous year.

Now I haven’t heard of too many people sticking with their resolutions, but if you are one of those people who make a resolution and sticks with it then good for you, and keep up the good work! For most of us, however, even though we have the best intentions of eating healthier or of finally giving up smoking, we still fall short at achieving our New Year’s resolutions, and I’m here to tell you that that’s okay. Even if you do fail, you don’t have to let that failure be a bad thing.

A lot of people will start to think negatively if they break their resolution. They might start to think that they were stupid to even try and think that this could be the year for them to shed those extra pounds. They might become down and out because they think that they’re not pretty, smart, funny, good, or worthy enough to find love in the New Year. Thoughts like this can only bring more harm to you. By thinking negatively you may end up doing the exact opposite of the New Year’s resolution that you were trying to achieve in the first place. Instead of losing weight, you may feel so upset about your lack of success at losing weight that you start to eat more. The added stress of failing at your goal of quitting smoking may lead you to pick up more cigarettes than you did in 2014. When things like this start to happen, you may begin to think that you aren’t capable of completing your resolution, but that could not be further from the truth. You are capable of completing that resolution.

If you fail, use this opportunity to learn from your mistakes. Sometimes it’s hard to see the good in failure, but trust me it’s always there if you look hard enough. Maybe you failed at finally giving up smoking, but it’s not because you lack the will power to do it. After sitting back and looking at the route of your failure you may notice that you always gravitate towards your cigarettes when you get into fights with your significant other and that it’s your toxic relationship that is leading you to smoke more and not achieve your resolution. Maybe you stopped volunteering a month into the 2015 because working at a soup kitchen once a week was not as appealing to you as spending your time with the elderly who don’t receive any visitors at the convalescent home that they live at. Whatever the source of your failure may be, it’s your job to find it and learn from it.

My advice to you positive thinker, is that if you do happen to not succeed with your New Year’s resolution, don’t start to drown in a pool of hopelessness. Try to find the route of why you failed and change your actions so that you can succeed. Don’t focus on the negativity of your failure, focus on the positive. Just because you didn’t achieve your goals when you wanted to doesn’t mean that you have to give up on them completely. Once you dig deep and find out what you did wrong you can change it so that the next time around you can do it right. And remember, you don’t have to wait until the new year to improve yourself. You can seek to be a better version of you at anytime!

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