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Have you ever noticed that when you dwell on the negative you tend to attract more negativity into your life? This was just one part of the message that the pastor of my church had for us this past Sunday, and I woke up this morning thinking about it.

I realized that from time to time I find myself only thinking about the bad things that are going on in my life. I get into a frame of mind where I can only focus on the problems that I have going on at work. My mind becomes haunted with the ghosts of the unnecessary drama that my friends, family, and acquaintances are bringing into my life. I get caught in this downward spiral of negativity, and with each and every new negative thought that I have I seem to get caught up more and more in this downhill journey towards the great abyss of negativity. It’s easy to get stuck in this trap, but this is definitely a trap that you want to avoid, positive thinker.

Thinking negatively can become easy and almost routine at times, but with a little extra energy you can start to change your frame of mind from one of negativity to one of positivity. Throughout my life I have learned that once I start to focus on all of the good in my life, the bad stuff doesn’t seem as bad anymore. Focusing on the positive in my life not only allows for me to stop focusing on the negative, but it also attracts more of the positive into my life.

Another thing that my pastor mentioned in his message was for us to thank God for all that He has done for us. He encouraged us to make a list of all of the good that we have in our lives and to thank God on a daily basis for all of those blessings that we have.

Even though this was an exercise that I received in church, I believe that anyone, regardless of their religious beliefs, can put a little bit more effort into being thankful for what they do have. You don’t necessarily have to wake up every morning and thank God for the good that you find in your life, but I challenge you to try and focus on the good in your life instead of the bad. Sit down and devote some serious time to making a list of each and every single good thing that you have in your life. This list can range from things as small as the new finger nail polish that you picked up from the store last week that matches the color of your eyes all the way up to the big things in your life like the fact that you have a warm home and a warm bed with a soft pillow that you can rest your head upon after a long day at work. It doesn’t matter how bad you may think your life is, everyone has something to be thankful for, and it is up to you to focus on those good things. Accept positivity instead of negativity. Pick the uphill climb towards joy instead of the downhill one towards despair. Now, I am no fool. I know that this climb towards positivity may not be an easy one, but most things worth having never are. You may get a few bumps, cuts, and bruises on this journey, but it will be worth it in the end. You, positive thinker, have the potential to bring about real joy into your life by choosing to focus on the good instead of the bad, so accept my challenge and make a conscious effort to dwell on the positive in your life instead of the negative. Try it. What do you have to lose?

 

 

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Season’s Greetings!

I know that for many people the holidays are frequently viewed as a time of great joy. During this time of the year we get off from work and school and spend our vacation time in the presence of our friends and family, making this season a time of happiness and togetherness. But let’s face it, often times the holidays can quickly become overwhelming. We get so wrapped up in all the many activities that we have planned that sometimes these activities start to feel more like work than fun. In order to avoid bringing extra and unnecessary stress into your lives during the holidays try making a list of the activities that are the most important to you. Instead of engaging in activities that make you unhappy, get rid of those activities that you find too burdensome. The holidays should be a time of relaxation and fun with your loved ones, so avoid engaging in activities that will take this away from you.

Now even though we would like to cross off all of our unwanted holiday activities from our calendar, there are some obligations that we can’t simply eliminate. Sometimes, much to our chagrin, we may have to go caroling with our in-laws that we don’t get along with or we may have to spend our trickling funds on buying Christmas presents for our loved ones. In these instances it sometimes helps to pick out one positive aspect from your dreaded event. For instance, you may not see eye-to-eye with your in-laws on anything, but instead of focusing on this negative idea try focusing all of your energy on the fact that you get to bring a little bit of holiday joy to the people who hear your holiday songs. You may not have as much money to buy everyone the presents that you wanted to buy for them, but you can use this opportunity to explore your creative and resourceful side. Have some fun coming up with new and fresh ideas on how to make your limited funds stretch a little further, and relish in the chorus of thank yous that you will receive from the loved ones that you give your gifts to. If you start to find and focus on the positive facets of your holiday activities that you have to keep on your calendar, you may even start to enjoy these activities more than you ever thought was possible.

For the positive thinker, positivity can be found in the bleakest of situations. This holiday season, try finding that one thing that makes a seemingly impossible situation look a little bit brighter. This beacon of hope may actually be what gets you through that unwanted activity with a little less stress.

Hello beautiful people!

Wally had one of those days again where he decided to just watch Youtube videos for hours on end. He found this video on Soul Pancake’s page that really touched his heart. The positivity that is in this video radiates through the screen and you just can’t help but smile.

Watching this video helped Wally realize that expressing your gratitude and appreciation for someone in your life not only lifts their spirits, but will lift yours as well.

He wants you all to attempt this exercise. If you’re in a dark place and want a little push towards the light then this exercise should do just that. .

Wally thinks that doing this is going to help improve your happiness and bring positivity into your mindset.

Go out and find the person who inspires you the most or has had a great impact on your life and tell the how much they mean to you. Wally is going to go find his too.

Happy Days and Stay Positive!

Click here to watch the video. You will not regret it 🙂

Wally was scrolling down his facebook timeline and found a very touching video for you all! It brought this huge smile across his face and he hopes it will bring a smile to you too. This video helps you to remember that even when you have nothing, you are still capable of happiness.  Click here to Enjoy!

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Sometimes there are things that happen to us that we just don’t expect. In fact, we watch with empathy as others suffer, never thinking that we could be going through something similar or even worse one day soon. It seems that it is actually healthy denial to live that way.  It would not be beneficial to worry all the time that the worries of others will be yours and anticipate them anxiously.  However, it does not make it easier to accept when the stress, disasters, traumas and just plain BS of life actually do come to your doorstep. Most likely, you had been living comfortably in a rose colored bubble of confidence and a positive outlook,  not worrying that something was going to come to you and just completely obliterate your idea of how your life was supposed to be going.  These unexpected events turn us around and leave us standing on our heads wondering what just happened and whether everything we knew before of ourselves and others were really true.  THOSE unexpected things are not the simple things of change and transition requiring a simple modification of thought  but the things that require you to adjust the very fabric of how you view yourself and others and whether you can allow yourself to rebuild your own vision of yourself and others in a healthy way and not in a way born of fear of that particular unexpected event happening again.

At that point, when the unexpected does hit…we have some choices, I think.  One, we can become traumatized and bitter.  Everything that reminds us of that event will make us feel that the event will occur again no matter if there are new participants.  You know, a +b = c and all that jazz.  If you are the commonality (a, for example), you might start to believe that because you are you (a), and you add the b, then that unexepected event (c) will occur again and that sounds pretty scary if that event caused enough trauma.  Whatever unexpected event occured for you at that point then becomes your prison and you may stop yourself from ever having a positive path with that experience.

The second choice might be taking it to a more spiritual place.  People often say that things happen for a reason.  You know, that old saying that when one door closes another one opens. Sometimes the unexpected event was placed before us to challenge us not to prove to us that we have big problems like everyone else, but because the path we had been going on was not for us and we needed a huge slam against our speeding train forward to knock us onto the course that is really meant for us.  Since we were probably getting really comfortable with the cadence and speed of our train, this felt like a possibly fatal collision at the time, but our second option may actually be what’s best for us.

For the positive thinker, the unexpected is an opportunity for change for the better.  A sign that we had not been traveling the correct path or that something needs to be reassessed along that road.  Because we choose to see it that way, we have the power to shape our movement forward. The unexpected is still very hard to go through in the moment, but when we build up our reserves, our resilience and coping skills, we can make it through and prosper, even when that change felt icky when it began. For all those dealing with the unexpected, may your transition be quick, manageable, balanced and in the direction you desire.

Yin and Yang illustrated from the Tao Te Ching [2]

When people see things as beautiful,
ugliness is created.
When people see things as good,
evil is created.

Being and non-being produce each other.
Difficult and easy complement each other.
Long and short define each other.
High and low oppose each other.
Fore and aft follow each other.

http://www.iep.utm.edu/yinyang/

As the year comes to a close, we are all thinking about resolutions and what we want to change in the new year.  One of ours here at Positivity Works! is to continue to encourage a healthy and optimistic view on life for both our readers and ourselves.  In that effort to bring us all into the new year with a smile, we have found a great video supporting wondrously positive ideas about kindness and it’s ability to improve happiness. The music is pretty cool too.  So why not take a look?  Maybe it can inspire you to spread the kindness, too!

  “The Life Vest Inside (click here to learn more about their mission) is a nonprofit organization that “works to cultivate the awareness that individuals can effect real and positive change in the people around them, simply by ‘living kindness:’ by embodying empathy and compassion in our day-to-day lives.”  Wowza!!!!  We heart this idea and their video. Enjoy!             

Sometimes I lay under the moon

And I thank God I’m breathin’

Then I pray don’t take me soon

‘Cause I am here for a reason

– Matisyahu, “One Day”

Disney…this is an oh so welcome addition to your greatness! ❤ The Walt Disney Company put together an awesome “It Gets Better” video in support of The Trevor Project (an anti-bullying campaign mentioned in a previous Positivity Works! blog, click here to view).  The video includes interviews with Disney Cast Members (aka employees) who have experienced bullying in their lives as a result of who they are and they even offer great advice about who to contact if you get to that point when you either “want to end it or break free [of the insecurities and trappings of feeling rejected, unwanted, unloved, etc]”. 

Check it out and  “Just remember…You are never alone.”

Need a little pick me up? Dunn dunh dunh dunnn…Wally has arrived to save the day! Back from his adventures in You Tube land, he has found a wonderful jewel of a video made by a young lady full of inspirational thoughts and a great message.  The star of our chosen Video Pick for Good Vibes writes simple but powerful words of understanding.   The message…Sure, life has its ups and downs and twists and turns and sometimes back-handed face slaps, but everybody hurts, you are not alone, and why not smile anyway? You’ve got nothing to lose.  And if you’re feeling up to it, spread the love too!

Thanks for the motivation! You have helped us to remember that positivity helps us get through the hard times. Enjoy, positive thinkers!

Today, I woke up thinking about the word, Precipice.   According to the World English Dictionary, Precipice means the steep sheer face of a cliff or crag or a precarious situation.  The definition has me envisioning myself standing right on the edge of said cliff, looking down into an abyss of precariousness.  That sounds scary, right?  I mean…what is down there?

In my musings, I’ve determined that what lies in that deep dark place is a decision that a person is fearful of making and the dark abyss is our own doubts making us wonder if we would survive the decision (the leap) and its resulting consequences.  A precipice is something that we encounter in our lives when we are making huge, life changing decisions such as deciding to change a job or become self-employed, or even when we are deciding whether or not we want to stay in our current relationships.  Those types of decisions have us in a complete tizzy because they have the power to change our whole lives, our whole routine, and it can be for the better or for the worse, if we will it so.

I think all people have these points in their lives where they feel they are at the precipice of something.  Something has them wanting to adjust an integral part of their lifestyles and they are standing at that cliff’s edge wondering if they would be strong enough to navigate the darkness and still land on their feet at the bottom if they took that leap.  To them, it can seem impossible and that hypothetical death seems certain.  They know something needs to change if they are unhappy and that’s how they got to that cliff’s edge in the first place but the fear traps them in their situation and often, that is just where their lives stagnate with minimal growth because they cowered from that edge.

But what if we had options? Instead of thinking of the leap causing pain with a broken and devastating collapse at the bottom of the dark abyss, what if we believed we could make it over and to the other side (even if we are a bit bloody and bruised when we landed?)  We, at Positivity Works!, feel that a person’s confidence and belief in themselves and their reselience is what gives our minds the super powers to fly over the doubt and fear.  Remember, this precipice is not literal.  It was created, developed, and made darker and scarier by our own minds, doubts, fears, and experiences.  We will make it through the decision we make no matter what (i.e. how hard it is, how stressful it is, how much it makes us cry), because we have trained our minds to be that strong.  It is the truth if we will it so. And if our truth is that nothing in that abyss can hurt us because we created it, then we will always win.  Just as whatever happens in life is just an occurence and if you believe you can get through it, you will.

Today, the word Precipice was on my mind because I  have a big decision to make.  But no matter what I decide, I know that I will survive because I know my mind is strong enough for the leap.  I will make it to the other side and so will you, just train your mind to believe it and will your body to get it done.

If you, positive thinker, are also at a precipice,  here  is some musical inspiration to help you with your own leap to the other side.  You’ve got this.

This world, in its most recent history, has seen multiple wars, multiple natural disasters and more than a few everyday stressors.  All incidents that can create so much stress and strife.  We don’t often speak, here at Positivity Works!, about the reasons why we need to be positive.  We most often just provide resources and information about how to attain and maintain your positivity.   However, the why can be important because the why is often the story that is hiding behind the fake smile on your face when you answer “Fine” after the 5th person  that day asks you “How are you?”  when you really feel the complete opposite.  In fact, you would probably love to confide in them and feel that they really hear you and care (and won’t spread your business).

And just imagine, if they did, if they were open to you and tolerant enough to give you the time and hear you.  How would you feel?  I’d imagine that there would be some feelings of positivity associated because the why was no longer lurking in your head but now out there for you to process, freeing you to think/feel other things. And, if you train your mind correctly, those thoughts would be positive in nature.

We here at Positivity Works! are of the opinion that we need to be positive because it builds our tolerance to pain and hurt.  It builds our tolerance to the reality of the multiple wars, disasters,  and grievances and helps us to go on living.   It even builds our tolerance to physical pains.  For example, convincing yourself that “you got this” in a middle of a torturous run can really be the thing to push you past the pain of the cramp in your side.  Positivity can also build your tolerance for others when you would like nothing better than to *&^BKJD!!! (insert *be really mean to them*).  Being able to turn away from them with a smile is much better than being arrested, don’t you think?

Words to think on…Be Tolerant.

“Though all society is founded on intolerance, all improvement is founded on tolerance.”  –George Bernard Shaw

                  “Intolerance is evidence of impotence.” –Aleister Crowley

    “Anger and intolerance are the twin enemies of correct understanding.”              Mahatma Gandhi

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