New-Year_Resolutions_list

We make promises constantly. Promises are meant to be kept, so when we make them, we usually try to keep them. And we learn this starting from a young age. When we were little, we made pinky promises, crossed our hearts and hoped to die, and engaged in spit hand shakes to prove that we would keep a promise. We read stories about blood oaths and we learned even further the importance of keeping promises. We knew that if we broke promises that there would be consequences. People would stop believing us if we didn’t keep our promises, and we wouldn’t be able to be taken seriously if we lied and constantly broke our promises.

We may not do anything as childish as making pinky promises anymore, but the idea behind our promises remains the same. When we make a promise, we do so with the intention of keeping it. It doesn’t matter if the promise is big or small or if we make it to someone that we’re close to or to someone who we barely know. A promise is a promise, and it’s meant to be kept.

Holding promises that we make to other people is something that we do on a regular basis, but how often is it that we find ourselves breaking promises that we make to ourselves? Do you put the same emphasis and importance as you do on the promises that you make to yourself? We don’t typically do that do we? When we make promises to other people and we break them then we have someone that’s going to be angry with us, but if we make a promise to ourselves and we break it then we don’t have anyone who will be angry with us, right? Wrong.

When you break a promise that you make to yourself positive thinker, you may not have any outside force holding you accountable, but you do have an internal force. You have you, and that should mean something to you. If you place such a high value on keeping promises to some other person then you should at least place the same value (if not more) on the promises that you make to yourself. Shouldn’t you give yourself the same respect that you give to somebody else?

As you ponder that question, you may start to think about a promise to yourself that you intend on making in just a couple of days. Promises are a pretty common thing to think about this time of the year because in less than 48 hours people around the world are going to start with their new year’s resolution. They made promises about how they were going to change in this upcoming year and in just a handful of hours it will finally be time for them to start the year off by being a new version of themselves. Are you going to be one of those people?

Some of us use the close of the year as motivation to become better people in the upcoming year, but it’s important that as we decide upon our resolutions that we also choose resolutions that are going to help us to truly become better versions of ourselves. If you haven’t yet figured out what you’re going to do for this new year then you still have some time to get your ideas ready. It doesn’t matter what your New Year’s resolution ends up being as long as you think that it will help you to grow as a person. It may be to eat healthier, or you may want to work out more. Or perhaps your heart is set on being financially responsible in 2016. Or maybe you’ll make promises that will help to heal your soul instead of something physical about your body. No matter what the promise is, just make sure that you use it to jump start your journey of becoming a better you.

Positive thinker, it doesn’t matter if you have broken promises that you have made to yourself in the past. In just over 24 hours from now you will have a chance to not break the promise that you made to yourself for the new year. Keep your promise this year positive thinker. You deserve to be the best version of yourself!

Advertisements

forgive-208824_960_720

Fairly often, we find ourselves concerned with the things that can damage us physically. We look both ways before we cross the street so that we don’t get hit by a car. We eat healthy food so that we don’t get heart disease or any other number of diseases that can result from a poor diet. We work out so that we can keep our bodies strong and healthy instead of weak and sickly. We try so hard to be physically healthy that sometimes we forget that intangible things can have just as big of an affect on our bodies as the tangible things can.

Holding on to negativity in any form can really damage you. It doesn’t matter if it’s anger, resentment, hatred, or negative feelings of self because negativity in any form is not good for you. There are even things out there that leave us with feelings of negativity that we may not even recognize or be aware of. For instance, did you know that not allowing for forgiveness to take place can have a negative toll on your body?

When somebody lies to you, cheats on you, deceives you, or hurts you any way it usually doesn’t leave you with good feelings about that individual who has harmed you. After someone hurts you, you become angry with them, especially if this person who has done you wrong is a loved one. You would never expect this person to make you feel bad, and yet they have done just that. Your initial response may be to harm them in the same way that they harmed you. Or perhaps you may just decide to cut that person out from your life altogether. You may even choose not to forgive that person.

Choosing not to forgive someone after they have hurt you may feel like a good way for you to deal with the situation, but the reality of the matter is that when you choose not to forgive someone who has done something to harm you, you will never truly be able to move on from that situation. Remember last week’s post about letting go of loads that cause you pain? Well, forgiveness can help you to let go of the hurt that you have in your heart from that person who has done you wrong…

When I was in the fifth grade I told a secret to one of my friends. It wasn’t a very big secret, but the one thing I did ask of my friend that I told this secret to was that she didn’t reveal my secret to another one of my friends that I had at the time. A few days later, my friend told my secret to the very friend that I had asked her to keep the secret from. I was furious to say the least. I stopped talking to her because I was so angry that she had told my secret. And of course, it follows that since I stopped talking to her, we eventually stopped being friends. At the end of that school year, my former friend moved away and I still had chosen not to forgive her. Even though months had passed since she had revealed my secret, I still walked around holding on to that anger that I had towards her. I just couldn’t let it go. That is, I couldn’t let it go until after I had a talk with another one of my friends. This other friend knew that I was no longer friends with the girl who had told my secret, and she also helped me to see that holding on to that anger was hurting nobody but me. My former friend had moved on (literally) and was probably going to start a new life at a different school and think nothing more about our falling out. My friend told me that I shouldn’t allow myself to be angry anymore if my former friend wasn’t even going to be affected anymore by the loss of our friendship. It was in that moment that I made the decision to forgive my old friend. My friend that I had the talk with was right. Holding on to that anger wasn’t harming anyone but me, but forgiving my old friend would allow for me to move on with my life too. It may have taken months for me to forgive the girl who shared my secret without my permission, but the moment that I did it, I felt loads better.

The thing is everyone will do something to hurt another person at some point in their life. It may not be intentional or pre-meditated, but it does happen. And if you were the one who was seeking out forgiveness for a wrongful act that you had enacted then you would probably want that person to forgive you. So why not give somebody else that same courtesy?

Forgiveness may not come right a way. It may take days, weeks, months, or even years, but when you finally hit the point of not wanting to hold on to that anger, just realize that forgiveness can help you to get rid of it.

You don’t have to forgive someone for their benefit positive thinker; you can choose to do it for yourself.

And remember, “Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior. Forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart.”

Penguin-with-a-heavy-load

Try and think back to a time when you had to carry something that was really heavy. We’ve all been there, so it probably won’t be that hard for you to come up with a moment. Now that you have that memory in your mind, try and put yourself back there. How does carrying that load feel? Do you feel your aching and wobbling arms? Do you hear your mind begging you to give your body some relief? It really doesn’t matter what kind of item you were carrying in that memory because carrying a heavy load is never pleasant.

And the load becomes more and more unpleasant the longer you have to carry it around. If you have to carry something heavy for a few seconds, then your pain is brief. You may even think that you can carry it for a longer amount of time without any problem. However, when the amount of time that you’re carrying the load increases from seconds to minutes, you all of a sudden become more aware of just how unpleasant carrying that load can actually be. And by the time you increase the time from minutes to hours, you realize just how burdensome that extra weight actually is. When you hit the hour mark you may start to search your mind for a memory of a time when you didn’t have the extra weight, but, try as you might, you can’t find that memory because all that you can focus on at the moment is how much pain your burden is causing you. You want to get rid of the weight. You want to feel like it feels to not have that extra load in your hands, and so you finally decide to do something about it. In order for you to get rid of that pain, you make the decision to let go of the weight. And the second you put it down, you can feel an instantaneous chorus of thanks from your body. Your body no longer feels heavy and weighed down because you’ve let go of your load. And at first you may still feel some of the pain that was left over from your heavy load, but soon enough your arms start to gain feeling back again and next thing you know you’re back to feeling normal again!

You don’t just have to let go of physical weights when they become too heavy for you to carry positive thinker. You have the ability to let go of those burdens that plague your mind and your soul as well. These burdens may not be physical, but they can have just as much of toll on your body as a physical weight can have. Walking around with resentment, regret, envy, hatred, and any of thousands of other mental burdens can cause you to feel weighed down just like the physical weights can. And just like with the physical weights, you may start out thinking that you can handle it. You may think that it’s not too bad holding on to all of that resentment. You may think that you can do it for a long time without it having a major effect on your body, but, just like with those physical loads, if you carry along a mental burden for too long you can start to experience some major pain. After one year you may be fine, but by the fifth year of holding on to your regret, you may actually start to feel it. And because you’re focusing too much of your energy on all of the extra weight that you’re holding on to, your mind and body cannot devote the time and energy to things that would be more beneficial to you than that pain would be. It can only focus on the pain of envy, so it can’t figure out a way to get you back to feeling like how you felt before you started holding on to that load. You get stuck feeling only that pain that comes along with hatred because you can’t just seem to let go of it.

Positive thinker, all you have to do is let go of that mental weight that you’re holding on to. It’s as simple as that. If you want to get back to feeling like you did before you picked up that extra weight then all you have to do is put down the weight. You can’t hold on to it and expect to feel just as light as you did before you held on to your extra load because carrying something extra is going to make you feel weighed down. So don’t give that mental weight that you are carrying the power to stop you from feeling light again. Let go of it! You deserve to feel free!

Remember, “It is necessary to let things go, simply for the reason that they are heavy.”

Eyes_&_Nose_5783

It’s really easy to walk around the world with your eyes half opened. It’s easy, but when you go through life with your eyes partially concealed then you can’t see the world in its entirety. Since you’ve chosen the easier path, you’re also probably only choosing to see the things that you want to see…

You get stuck in the rain and all you can think about is how inconvenient that water falling from the sky is for you. Your eyes are only half way opened so you can’t see that the little bit of rain that’s dripping from the clouds up above are providing nourishment for all of the crops on the ground that will fill up your belly once they’re ripe and ready to be plucked from the ground and on to your plate.

That annoying coworker who always has something to say and will never shut their mouth up is only viewed as a pain in the butt for you when you look at the world through partially concealed eyes. On the other hand, when you open up your eyes to see all of your coworker then you will be able to realize that even this person that gets on your nerves from time to time has redeeming qualities that you just weren’t able to see when your eyes were closed.

Seeing the good in other people is a way for you to spread positivity. Many of the posts I write on here talk about ways to increase positivity in your own life, but it’s important for you to go out and spread the positivity that you acquire. You shouldn’t just keep positive thinking to yourself; you should go out and share it with those that you encounter on a daily basis. And this can be as easy as choosing to see the good in others. This is something that you should want to do, but it’s not always something that is engrained in our way of thinking…

A lot of us live in communities and cities that teach us that we’re supposed to focus on ourselves. As long as we feel good then that’s all that really matters. My positive life style is making me feel better and that’s good enough for me. If this is your attitude then that’s an attitude of me-thinking not positive thinking.

There are some people out there in the world who only hear negative things about themselves. It’s always things like “you’re worthless,” “you can’t do anything right,” or “you’ll never amount to anything.” The thing is that when you start to hear these kinds of things all of the time, you may actually start to believe those things about yourself. When all you hear is negativity, you stop expecting to receive positive messages.  You think that since the world views you in such a negative light that these things must be true and so you take them up as your own truth. But just because the world views this person in half opened eyes that only allows them to see the bad things about this person doesn’t mean that there’s only bad in this individual. You, positive thinker, have the opportunity to make the life of somebody like this a little more positive just by choosing to see the good in them. By being that beacon of positivity you just may just allow this person to start seeing themselves in a more positive light.

Remember the last time you received a little bit too much negativity from the people you encountered? How did it make you feel? I’m sure you weren’t happy about it because being belittled doesn’t tend to make anyone feel better about themselves. Wouldn’t it have made you feel a whole lot better if you could’ve have had somebody there to remind you of the good that they see in you. Wouldn’t you like to be that person for someone else?

Take up the challenge to walk around the world with your eyes fully opened because once you start walking around the world with the ability to see everything more clearly then you will also be able to be that beacon of positivity for those people that you come across in your life.

Spread your positive thinking positive thinkers!

And remember to “Always remember to see the best in others.”

fear

Have you ever wanted something really bad? Now I’m not talking about really wanting the latest version of the iphone or the newest pair of Jordans. What I’m talking about is a desire for something so big and so deep that if you got it it would change your life forever. If you haven’t thought about something entering into your life that’s that life altering then try thinking about it now. What would it be? How do you feel when you think about it? Excited? Overjoyed? Maybe even a little bit afraid?

Excitement is to be expected whenever you think about a big happy something happening to you, but why is it that when we think about doing things that we really want to do that fear also seems to accompany it sometimes? It would be a lot simpler if when we felt excited about something big happening that we only felt that excitement and not the fear too.

And where does that fear come from? Are you afraid of being happy? Do you think that you don’t deserve to have this thing that you really want? If that’s the case, then let me tell you that you do deserve happiness positive thinker. You shouldn’t feel afraid of receiving happiness because happiness is something that you’re entitled to just for the mere fact that you have air in your lungs and a heart beat in your chest.

Or maybe if you’re not afraid of being happy then you may be afraid of the journey towards happiness. The end goal doesn’t scare you, but the path that you need to take in order to reach the end is what scares you. You’re not sure of what you’re going to experience on that path and that’s a scary feeling. Uncertainty is scary. Your path may be so smooth that you don’t experience any rough roads along the way, but that scenario isn’t what leaves you feeling afraid. The rough path with rocks and bumps and dips and sharp curves is the one that’s scary.

If the journey is what’s scaring you positive thinker then try not to focus on that rough road. Focus on the smooth one. When you expect for the road ahead to be a rough one, chances are that you’re going to have a tough journey ahead of you. On the other hand, if you expect for the journey to be smooth then you’re less likely to experience that bumpy path. Don’t expect for bad things to happen positive thinker. Expect for good things to happen, but still prepare yourself for any possible rough patches that you may experience. If you are focusing on an easy journey and you actually start to experience that easy journey that you’ve been expecting then any minor bump that may occur on your path won’t seem too bad because most of your journey was smooth sailing to start with.

And if you can’t seem to get that rough road out of your head then try answering this question…

How often is the fear of the experience that you built up in your head scarier than what you actually experience in real life? Most of the times we concoct a scenario in our head that’s so terrifying that we don’t want to do whatever that scary thing is. But, when we experience that thing that we have been so afraid of, we usually end up only experiencing a fraction of the pain that we imagined in our minds. So, next time you feel afraid of something, make a point to remember one of those moments when you were afraid of doing something only to have it end up not being as scary as you had imagined it to be. Use that moment to push through this new fear. Use it to remind yourself that whatever you’re going to experience is not nearly as scary as you’re making it out to be.

In life, sometimes the fear that you experience on your journey will seem like it’s just so overwhelming that not even the potential excitement of experiencing that end event seems like enough for you to want to take the plunge, but I urge you positive thinker to take that plunge. Put yourself in the moment of receiving that thing that you really want. If you can feel the happiness radiating throughout your body just by thinking about that moment then wouldn’t you want to do anything to experience that elation in real life, even if it means you have to push through some fear to get there? Fear gets in our way all of the time. It would be nice if we never had to deal with it, but we do, so the best thing that we can do when we’re faced with fear is to look it in the face and push it out of our way because whatever lies on the other side of the monster is going to be worth it.

Fear is a bully, but don’t let it beat you down. Step up and face it, and you’ll be surprised what you’ll find behind your defeated foe.

Positive thinkers, whenever you come face to face with fear just remember this simple quote to get you through it, “Everything you want is on the other side of fear.”

Let this be your motivation. Let it help you to achieve what you want to achieve out of life!

gift.jpg

When you buy a gift you don’t keep it for yourself. The purpose of purchasing a gift is to give it away to someone who will like it and appreciate it. So, when a loved one has a birthday or when Christmas or some other gift-giving holiday comes around we know exactly what to do. We go into store after store looking for the perfect gift to give to that perfect person. You know that loved one’s likes and dislikes and because of this you know exactly what he or she will want to receive on this special-gift giving day. And you know that when the day comes for you to give that gift away that the happiness etched across your loved one’s face will let you know that that gift that you bought was a perfect gift for that person.

Now, you did spend all of that time picking out the perfect gift, so if you wanted to keep the gift (I mean, you did buy it after all) you could. You could keep it, but you don’t. And the reason why you don’t keep your gift is because you know that you’re supposed to share it with that special person. It wouldn’t make sense for you to put in all of that effort in to finding a perfect gift for your loved one only to keep it for yourself, so you share your perfect gift instead.

The perfect gift.

That’s what we all search for at one point in time or another. We want to find our gift. But unlike with gift giving, we are trying to find the perfect gift for ourselves. We don’t want to go around life without having a gift, so we search and we search and we search until we find that thing that drives us…our gift…our passion. We fight until we find that reason for living that will actually make us happy to wake up in the morning and start on our days. Finding our gifts and talents and using them is what helps us to live a fulfilling life, but discovering those gifts isn’t necessarily easy for everyone. Some people know all of their lives what they are truly talented at, but for others, this journey comes as a bit of a struggle. If you have discovered your gifts positive thinker, then make sure to hold on to them and use them as you go on throughout your life, but if you haven’t figured out what your gift is then don’t give up just yet. If you’re having problems discovering what your gift is then try this on for size…

A friend once told me to not give up on finding my passion in life, and she was right. I told this friend that I wasn’t feeling very fulfilled with where my life was and she told me that it didn’t make sense to walk around this world feeling unfilled, so she gave me some advice that helped her to find her passion, and I encourage you to use it too if you’re having trouble finding yours. In order to find out her passion, she first set aside some time to really examine herself. And once she set aside some time, she used that time to compile a list. The list that she made had all of the things that she did in her life that genuinely made her feel good and happy about herself. And when she made this list, she didn’t leave off anything. No item was too small. So when you make your list positive thinker, make sure not to leave anything out either. If you feel good when you’re washing the dishes then write that down, and when you write it down try and think about what exactly it is about that thing on your list that makes you feel happy in the moment that you’re experiencing it. Is it getting to work with water? Is it the fact that you get to take something dirty and grimy and make it new again? Or perhaps it may be the fact that your mind gets to wander unchecked and free during this time, and that’s when you just so happen to be at your best. It doesn’t matter what the reason is, just write it down. Taking some time to hone in on what you truly like will help you to find your gift (or gifts). And as time passes and your list finally becomes complete, you’ll end up discovering what it is that will really make you feel fulfilled because ten times out of ten the things that you’re gifted at are the things that make you the happiest while you’re experiencing them. The information that you need to find your gift is inside of you, but bringing it out of you and writing it down allows it to all be right there in front of you at the same time instead of in individual pieces and snippets in your mind. You have a gift inside of you positive thinker, all of us do, but you just have to dig deep enough to find it.

And once you find your gift, you shouldn’t keep it to yourselves because, after all, it is a gift and gifts are meant to be shared. Once we find out what our gifts are, then it’s our job to make sure that we share it with others. Do you remember how your friend’s eyes lit up when you gave him or her the perfect birthday present? Well if you could pass on that same light in your loved one’s eyes to the people you encounter simply by sharing your gift, wouldn’t you want to do that? You could have the chance to spread a bit of happiness just by doing something that you love doing and that you were born to do. All you have to do is share it.

When you’re lucky enough to discover what your gifts are make sure to embrace them because our gifts were given to us so that they could be embraced and used. But also remember, you don’t get a gift for someone just so that you can keep it to yourself. You buy it so that you can share it. So, don’t keep your gifts to yourself positive thinker. They’re met to be shared.

And remember, “The meaning of life is to find your gift. The purpose of life is to give it away.”

devil women

Take a look at the picture above. What do you see? Did you see an image of a devil’s face? Or perhaps you might have seen an image of a group of women hanging out in a room together. Both of these images are in the picture above, but depending on how you looked at the picture, you either saw the devil’s face or the group of women.

Isn’t it funny how you can look at one picture and see two completely different images? How you perceived these images resulted in whether you saw one image over the other. Perception is important, but it isn’t just important in determining whether you saw a devil or women; it just so happens to be an essential and constant part of our lives. It plays a major role in how we navigate through our lives on a daily basis. We are constantly taking in information. The auditory, visual, tactile, olfactory, and gustatory cues that surround us from day to day help to shape what we think about and how we behave in this world.

Daily we are confronted with an array of experiences. We have to interact and deal with other people, and we have to deal with unforeseen circumstances. Life is unpredictable and sometimes we run into unfavorable situations, but that doesn’t mean that we have to walk around only seeing the bad things about these less than desirable conditions. Like I’ve said before, there is good in every situation, you just have to find it. You loosing your job just means that you have a chance to find something even bigger and better than where you were at before. You breaking up with your significant other just means that you don’t have to waste anymore time in a relationship that wasn’t right for you. And you falling on hard times financially just means that you’ll have more time to appreciate the simpler things in life, which is something that we should do more but often times fail to do.

And even if you can’t find the good in your bad situation, chances are that if you take a few minutes to really assess the situation you’ll end up discovering that that situation is not as terrible as you’re making it out to be because things really are never as bad as they seem. Some of the curve balls life throws our way really are difficult to deal with and finding the good in that situation may be more difficult than finding the good in just a minor snag or hiccup. The real goal in these instances should be for you to try and find a way to look at the situation with a little less horror than you did when you first came across it. And if you have difficulty seeing the situation for what it really is, talking to an objective someone who is outside of the situation may just help you to get some extra perspective so that you can see the reality of your problem. Or your solution to seeing things more clearly may be as simple as allowing for some time to pass before deciding to take a look at the situation again. Trying not to see the bad when it seems like there’s nothing but around you is a difficult thing to do, but it’s a completely possible task for you to achieve once you are able to take a new perspective.

Now before we finish up here, let’s go back to the image at the top of this post one more time. When you first saw it you didn’t make the decision to see one version of the picture over the other. Your mind chose it for you. But once you found out that there was more than one image, you could then choose which image you wanted to focus your attention on. If you wanted to see the devil you could change the way you perceived the picture and see the devil. And on the other hand, if you wanted to see the women then you could change your perception to see the women instead of the devil.

This process doesn’t only just work for the image above positive thinker; you can use it when you have to take on those unexpected curve balls. Unlike with the picture, you start out knowing that there is more than one way for you to look at an undesirable situation. You can either take the time to find the good in the not so good situation, or you can choose to focus only on the bad and not see the good. And because you already know the two ways that you can perceive bad situations, you also have the option to choose whatever perception you want to use. You may have started out seeing the bad, but because you know the good option exists, you have the capability to switch over to that better way of looking at your problem.

Positive thinker you don’t want to walk around seeing the devil when you know a happier image exists, so don’t choose it. Choose the happier version!

And always remember, “A good day begins and ends with perception.”

https://pixabay.com/static/uploads/photo/2015/10/30/12/10/friends-1013856_640.jpg

During your childhood and teenage years you probably thought about doing (or maybe even did) something just because someone else (who was more popular than you) told you that it was the cool thing to do. Now I’m not talking about something small like someone telling you to try a new kind of food even though it didn’t look appetizing to you. No, what I’m talking about is something that goes a lot deeper… something that if you agreed to do it would go against a belief or moral that stretched all the way down to the very core of who you are. You may not have wanted to do this thing, but because somebody that you wanted to be friends with told you that they would like you better if you did that thing that you really did not want to do you ended up succumbing to the peer pressure. You wanted to be liked (most kids do) so instead of sticking to your morals you caved in and engaged in this undesirable activity in order to gain a new “friend.”

Now, I use “friend” in quotes because this person that convinced you to participate in that activity that you really didn’t want to participate in wasn’t really your friend. Now that you’re older you realize that a real friend would have never pushed you to do something that you really and truly didn’t want to do. A friend would have accepted your answer when you told them that you didn’t want to participate in that activity and they wouldn’t’ve pushed you to do that thing that went against who you are a person simply because they valued who you were as a person and respected your beliefs.

We know that now we shouldn’t have these kinds of “friends” in our life. We know that we should only keep people in our lives that value who we are. We know this. But yet, sometimes we find ourselves surrounded by people who don’t value our worth. This world is tough and scary, and most of us don’t want to navigate through it by ourselves. Having somebody (or somebodies) there by your side to walk with you through this life makes living in this world a little less scary and a little bit more manageable.

Now and again we think that having friends in high places will make us happier, so we revert back to our childhood and teenage selves. You still want to be liked by those people with power because you think that they can help you steer through this world more clearly, so you may sometimes feel the need to change something about yourself so that you can be like these people and be liked by these people. And allow me to clarify some more. When I say people in high places, I don’t necessarily mean that you’re literally trying to befriend CEO’s and CFO’s of fortune 500 companies. What I’m saying is that I do know that there will be people that you come across who have something that you “want,” and you may be tempted to listen to what they have to say and to change yourself accordingly even though what they’re telling you to do is in stark contrast with who you are as a person. You may think that these “friends” have your best interest at heart, but anyone who is trying to change who you are at your core does not have your best interest in mind at all.

You see positive thinker, the thing about friendship is that you shouldn’t have to be around people who don’t want to be around an authentic version of yourself. If they can’t see your value then you shouldn’t want to have them as a part of your life. Nobody should make you feel like you have to change yourself in order to be liked. If you feel like you need to change who you are to keep around certain people then you can better believe that those people aren’t worth having around. You are an amazingly unique human being positive thinker. Your worth is not defined by some other person, it’s defined by you. So be happy being you because when you are confident with who you are you will start to attract people who also like you for who you are.

Wouldn’t you rather have somebody by your side who wanted you to be the best you that you can be? You should have people in your life trying to make you a better version of yourself that is still in line with who you are as person. You don’t need people who are trying to transform you into a completely different version of yourself that is void of all of what makes you you in the first place. But, if you do succumb to what these people are trying to make you in to be, you will end up feeling the effects of it, and it won’t be in a good way either. Being unauthentic takes a toll on your body mentally, physically, spiritually, and emotionally because when you’re unauthentic you put all of your time and energy into being someone that you weren’t meant to be and that’s difficult. But, when you have people in your life who encourage you to be you then you can truly be free because you don’t have to work hard to be you. It’s effortless and natural, and you don’t have to pretend to be something other than what you were meant to be.

Positive thinker you know that you should surround yourself with people who appreciate your worth, but sometimes we are blinded by what we think we need, and we end up forgetting temporarily that people who want us to be fake versions of ourselves will not end up doing us any good in the long run. So if you’ve happened to forget that you don’t need these kinds of people in your life then here is your reminder…

Get rid of the people in your life who don’t appreciate you for who you are positive thinker. You have worth, and everyone in your life should be able to recognize and value it.

So always remember, “When you know your value, you don’t have to beg people to like you, to be your mate, to spend time with you or to love you. Be confident in who you are.”

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/a/a8/Apple_and_Orange_-_they_do_not_compare.jpg

How many times do you go on Facebook in a day? 5? 10? 15 times? And how often do you find yourself looking at your friend’s photos on Instagram everyday? Sites like Instagram, Facebook, and Twitter seem to take up a significant portion of many of our lives. With each and every passing day all the different forms of social media become more and more popular, and as a result of this, more and more people flock to these forms of online connectedness to share what’s going on in their lives and to look at what’s going on in the lives of others.

When you get in a new relationship, you run to Facebook so that you can make it “Facebook official.”

When you buy a new car, you take a picture in front of it and post it on Instagram for all of your friends to see.

When you get a new promotion at work you turn to Twitter and compose a 140 character perfectly crafted tweet that lets everyone know how excited you are about your new promotion.

#WorkFlow

#GetPaid

#AllAboutTheBenjamins

We want to be viewed as having our lives together, so when we achieve something that’s “worthy” of sharing we share it.

Unfortunately, for those of us who don’t have our lives where we want them to be at, this constant influx of people succeeding with what they want from life can become discouraging. Seeing people getting what they want can be upsetting especially when you seem to be working just as hard, but can’t seem to get ahead. We look at their lives and see how well they’re doing and we start to feel like there’s something wrong with us for not having what they have. And when you start to compare yourself to someone who seems to be doing better than you you often times tend to feel worse about yourself.

When you see someone is better off than you you may want to compare yourself to them, but don’t fall into that trap positive thinker. You’re not the same person as the person that you’re comparing yourself to, so you shouldn’t compare yourself to that person. I’m sure you’ve heard the saying “you can’t compare apples and oranges,” and if you haven’t, this expression is basically saying that you can’t compare two things to each other that are completely different. Yes apples and oranges are both fruit, but that’s where their similarities start and end. And yes you and the person that you are comparing yourself to are both human, but that is where your sameness starts and ends. You are a completely unique individual who is on a completely unique journey, so it doesn’t make sense to compare yourself to somebody else because that person that you’re comparing yourself to is a completely unique person who is on an entirely different journey than you are on. And just because they seem to be ahead right now, doesn’t mean that you can’t or won’t be ahead at some other part of your journey. You can’t be that person that you’re comparing yourself to because you aren’t that person that you’re comparing yourself to, so don’t spend all of your time fretting over the fact that someone else is doing better than you because when you spend too much time doing that you won’t have enough time to embrace your own journey. And enmbracing your journey is what’s really important.

Making the move to stop comparing yourself to other people is a difficult thing to do positive thinker, but it is possible. So, when you find yourself comparing yourself to someone else take a step back from whoever’s life you’re looking at that’s causing you strife and start to focus on the things in your life that you are achieving instead of on the things that you aren’t achieving. And guess what positive thinker? When you find yourself being appreciative of the victories that you do have, you will end up drawing more victories your way. Being happy about your successes in life will put you in a better mood and when you’re in a good mood you feel like you can conquer the world, and when you feel like you can conquer the world positive thinker then that means that the world is yours for the taking.

Nevertheless, if you do find it more difficult to stop comparing yourself to people then perhaps it’s time to remove yourself from the situation(s) that lead you to compare yourself to others. For instance, if you need to, maybe take a step away from social media for awhile. Like I said earlier, our social media accounts are a constant reminder of people doing well in life. Nobody wants to share the bad stuff, so all we see is the good stuff in other people’s lives, and when we only see good things happening to other people then we may find ourselves wanting to compare our good things to those people’s good things and when they don’t measure up to each other we can end up feeling terrible about ourselves. So if social media is the source of your problem, take a break from it until you can find a way to stop comparing yourself so much to other people.

Positive thinker you may not believe it but you’re exactly where you need to be. When you stop comparing yourself to others and start relishing in your own successes, you’ll be able to see that for yourself. That person you’re comparing yourself to is awesome, but positive thinker, so are you! So, don’t allow the success of others to make you think that your own successes aren’t good enough. Be proud of your successes and your own unique journey!

Never forget, “Live your own life without comparing it with that of another.”

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/9/99/Happy_old_man.jpg

There seems to be a point in a lot of our lives when we simply give up on trying to do something with our lives that will make us feel truly alive. “Reality” catches up with you somewhere down the road. You realize that you need to make a living and that pursuing that thing that makes life worth living for you won’t bring you enough money to survive, so then you start to think that because you haven’t started to live the life that you want to live yet that you won’t ever be able to live that life, and then next thing you know, you give up on that life that you once dreamed of having. And because you have given up on trying to live the life that you want to live, you end up reaching a point where you feel like you need to settle for a life that isn’t really going to make you happy. Years go by and you find yourself stuck in this life that you’re living, and you may even start to figure that you’re never going to be able to live that life that you once thought that you could live.

You may have resigned yourself to live a life of complacency, but if you want more for your life than that then it’s not too late. If you constantly find yourself doing things that make you unhappy then it’s time to throw those things out of your life in a hurry. It doesn’t make sense to participate in activities that will weigh you down because when you do that you aren’t being true to yourself. And when you aren’t being true to yourself then you aren’t being your best self, and you deserve to be your best self positive thinker. Just because up until this point you’ve felt like you needed to engage in these spirit crushing activities doesn’t mean that you have to keep on doing it. Your path isn’t written in stone, so just because you’ve been doing things that haven’t been making you happy doesn’t mean that there isn’t time left in your life to start doing things that do make you happy.

In TV and in movies, and sometimes even in real life, people decide to start living the lives that they want to live after they receive some life altering news. Their doctor tells them that they only have a few months left to live, and so they drop everything that they were doing before that was making them unhappy and they start to pursue the things that they know are going to make them happy. A lot of TV shows and movies today don’t have the best lessons in them, but when these kinds of stories about people pursuing their dreams do come across our screens, a very clear message is presented to us— you shouldn’t have to wait until the end of your life to start living the life that you want to live. You deserve to be happy for all of your life, not just at the end of it, so don’t wait until the end of your life to start living with purpose. Go out and do things now that are in line with who you are as a person so that you can start to be happy now instead of waiting to be happy later.

And I know I’ve mentioned this before, but let me remind you again. You don’t have to just give up and leave your responsibilities behind you in order to live a life that allows you to do the things that bring you happiness. If you haven’t found a way to eliminate all of the things from your life that bring you down then you should at least make some time in your life to do the things that are going to bring you up. For instance, if you find yourself scrolling down your Facebook newsfeed for hours on end then try cutting back on that so that you can use your new found extra time to start doing things that are going to fill you up with new life. If you can spend time doing things that you don’t like to do then you should definitely find time to do the things that you do actually like to do because you’re only going to end up being a better and happier version of yourself because of it.

You shouldn’t give up on living a life that brings you happiness. We weren’t put here just to survive. We were put here so that we could live. Yes you have responsibilities now, but that doesn’t mean that you can’t start being who you wanted to be before life threw all of these new challenges your way, so go out there and find that thing or things that will give you life. Life’s to short to go around not living the life that you want to live, so if you find yourself living a half life, then go out there and find something that will make your life whole again!

Remember positive thinkers, “Strive to do things that define you. Say no to the things that don’t inspire you. Say yes to everything that fuels you. It’s the only life we live. Live it to your standards.”

Good Vibes

Positivity Works! Archives

inspirationalblogs.org
inspirationalblogs.org
%d bloggers like this: